Moms have a lot on their plates every day.
Parents have a lot on their plates and rarely get a break because they have to juggle numerous tasks throughout the day, such as washing the kids’ sticky hands and faces, folding their laundry, making sure they have breakfast and lunch, and getting them ready for school.
No matter how hard they try, there’s bound to be some kind of disaster waiting around the corner, like a glass of milk knocked over, a toy you accidentally stepped on, or a stain somewhere.
Few mothers can afford the luxury of a short shower before turning in or taking some time for themselves.
Some things we take for granted as parents are touched upon in a recent piece by Heather Duckworth, a mother who has been through it all.
The messes kids make as they mature before our eyes into the persons we’ve always imagined they’ll become are an integral part of that process.
It’s important to remember that our children will look back on the messes we cleaned up as adults and use those memories as the greatest testament to the childhood we gave them, so it’s worth the effort to find the joy in the midst of the chaos.
Regrettably, not all women get to experience the turmoil and clutter that children create.
Likewise, not all parents are able to enjoy the joy that children bring into their lives.
The popular post by Heather titled “The Blue Stain” resonated with many new and expectant mothers.
Heather’s heart started pounding as she scrubbed the grout her daughter had formed with the slime, remembering the disaster she had to remove all those years ago.
After a long day of running around after her two-year-old triplets and four-year-old older brother, picking up toys, and making sure no one got hurt in the piles of laundry she couldn’t finish that day, this mother would reflect, “My hands were full, but so was my heart.”
Before turning in for the night, Heather and her two sons danced to the radio while they tidied up the playroom.
Nobody could have predicted that it would be the last time they laughed so hard for a while.
It was just as she was settling in for a good night’s sleep herself that she heard one of the lads remark, “Uh, Oh,” and she saw the huge blue stain that would haunt her dreams forever.
The pen one of the triplets was holding burst in his grasp, spraying ink everywhere. His hands, face, and pajamas were all blue, giving the impression that the tiny boy was a smurf.
While she watched, Heather felt like a bad mother and began to get angry.
She hadn’t been angry with her son, but she did hold herself responsible because she had left the pen where youngsters could easily access it. Her feelings got the best of her.
“I gasped as I saw blue splatters across the floor and a thick pool of ink sinking into our carpet – our brand new carpet. I quickly yelled for my husband, who had been doing the dishes, to come and help me. I instantly felt so upset as I grabbed my son and took him to the bathroom to clean him up and my husband started scrubbing those bright blue stains on our carpet.”
Heather’s feelings of annoyance and fury would always resurface whenever she saw the stain on the fresh new carpet. All the wonderful times she had with her sons were symbolized by the stain until the day it was finally removed.
The youngster who spilled blue paint on the carpet was diagnosed with cancer a month later, and he died two years later, leaving the stain as a memento of their time together.
“It was still there . . . and now . . . it was a constant reminder of my son. It was a constant reminder of my frustration over something so trivial . . . something so unimportant in the scheme of life.
That blue stain was a constant reminder that life is messy, but that’s what makes it worth living. A constant reminder to not sweat the small stuff. A constant reminder that ‘things’ aren’t important, but people are. A constant reminder that accidents happen. A constant reminder to let go of the little things and hang on tight to what is important.”
She tried to cover up the vivid blue stain with the furniture, but every time she cleaned the room, there it was, staring at her, reminding her of her loss and the sorrow she was still feeling.
Heather’s story is meant to remind us of how often we take life for granted and fail to appreciate the little things that give our lives meaning. She feels the need to inform all the moms out there that the dirty laundry and strewn about toys are what really make the house a place of comfort and safety for their families.
Those messes, made by the people who matter most to us, are what make our lives worthwhile, as Heather puts it, because there will come a day when we will miss those moments very much indeed. “I would have a million blue ink stains on my carpet if it meant I could have one more day with my son.”
Her advice to moms: don’t let yourself get so wrapped up in the world that you miss out on quality time with your kids. Life is too short to be wasted scrubbing stains, so prioritize what matters most!
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Dustin Hoffman’s Secret Cancer Battle: The Untold Story of His Triumph!
Dustin Hoffman, known for his roles in movies like “Tootsie” and “Rain Man,” kept a big secret about his health. In 2013, when he was 75 years old, he shared that he had been treated for throat cancer. He didn’t talk about it after that.
Hoffman became famous in 1967 with his role in “The Graduate.” He got nominated for an Oscar for that movie. After that, he starred in more famous films like “All the President’s Men” in 1976 and “Kramer vs. Kramer” in 1979, where he won an Oscar for Best Actor.
In 1983, he was in “Tootsie,” where he played a man who pretends to be a woman to get an acting job.
In the famous movie where Dustin Hoffman dressed up as a woman, he was called a “nottie” instead of a “hottie,” which made him very sad.
He said in an interview, “If I was going to be a woman, I would want to be as beautiful as possible, and they said to me, ‘That’s as good as it gets.’ Uh, that’s as beautiful as we can get you.”
When he heard that he wasn’t considered very pretty, it made him really upset. This made him realize something important about how women are treated.
“I went home and started crying,” Hoffman says. “I think I’m an interesting woman, when I look at myself on-screen, and I know that if I met myself at a party I would never talk to that character because she doesn’t fulfill, physically, the demands that we’re brought up to think women have to have in order for us to ask them out.”
Even though the comedy he was in was the second most popular movie that year – “E.T. The Extraterrestrial” was number one – Dustin Hoffman didn’t find it funny.
He said, “…that was never a comedy for me.”
But despite that, Hoffman became one of the most famous actors in Hollywood.
He won his second Oscar for the 1988 movie “Rain Man” and also won six Golden Globes and one Primetime Emmy.
In 2013, the actor, who is usually busy with his career, became quiet.
Just a few months after Dustin Hoffman directed the British comedy “Quartet” in 2012, and shortly after finishing filming “Chef” in 2014 with Jon Favreau and Sofia Vergara, his representative told the world why the beloved actor had been out of the spotlight.
His publicist, Jodi Gottlieb, shared with People (through ABC News) that Hoffman had been successfully treated for cancer, something he had kept private. She said, “It was detected early, and he has been surgically cured. Dustin is feeling great and is in good health.”
Although not much detail was given, reports suggested he had throat cancer. Even though he was 75 at the time, he continued with treatments to prevent it from coming back.
But Hoffman didn’t let this slow him down. He continued to work, lending his voice to Master Shifu in more “Kung Fu Panda” movies and starring in other films like “Sam and Kate” in 2022 and the sci-fi drama “Megalopolis” in 2024.
In early March 2024, Hello! reported that Hoffman and his wife Lisa Gottsegen, whom he married in 1980, were seen walking together in London, showing affection.
They wrote, “The Hollywood legend looked years younger than 86 as he smiled and waved at the cameras. He was tanned and carefree as he strolled through the city and ducked into boutiques with his wife of 43 years.“
Although Hoffman hasn’t spoken publicly about his cancer battle, it seems he’s doing well. Let us know what you think of this story and share it so we can hear what others think too!
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