Trigger Warning: This article talks about themes of sexual abuse that may be upsetting to some readers.
Several big-name celebrities are rumored to have attended Sean “Diddy” Combs’ notorious “freak off” parties, which were popular in the early 2000s. Diddy has shared some unsettling details about these parties, mentioning “beautiful women” and “locks on the doors.” In a viral video posted on X, Diddy is seen boasting about making a man “go to sleep” at one of his parties. He says, “This is what happens to the White man when they come to a P Diddy party. I put them to sleep.” In the video, Diddy is also seen encouraging others to pour drinks on a man who had passed out.
“This is what happens to the White man when they come to a P Diddy party. I put them to sleep.” — P Diddy
What a vile and disgusting anti-White piece of shit. He deserves everything that’s coming his way.
— iamyesyouareno (@iamyesyouareno) September 27, 2024
In a video, Diddy is seen talking about what happens to a white man at one of his parties. He says, “For those in London who don’t know, this is what happens to the white man at a P. Diddy party.” Diddy points to a man named Craig, saying, “You’re still alive,” and then shows a drink being poured on his head. He adds, “And that’s James from Simian Mobile Disco, an actual DJ.” Diddy goes on to say that when people come to his parties, he puts them to sleep, and they pour drinks on their heads.
People online had mixed reactions to the controversial clip of Diddy saying, “I put ’em to sleep.” One user joked, “How is he ‘anti-white’ if he’s partying with them? That’s not how being against something works, lol.” Another person was much harsher, saying, “I hope he rots in prison forever. The real problem is that everyone involved will probably get away with it. Disgusting.” Someone else added, “P Diddy is a horrible person, no doubt. But in this case, it seems like he was just joking around because the guy passed out drunk.”
Man I hope he rots in prison for the rest of time itself.
The only issue with this entire ordeal is everyone who participated will likely get off.
Disgusting vile sick beasts that must all be held accountable
One person said, “He’s lucky. It’s better to just sleep through what Diddy has planned.” Another user joked, “That’s actually funny. I kind of like him again.” However, one commenter was critical, saying, “It’s shocking how everyone just went along with what he said. No one seems to have the courage or morals to stand up to him. What kind of society are we creating?”
He’s lucky. It’s better to just sleep through what Diddy has planned.
In 2002, Diddy talked about what makes his parties special on Late Night with Conan O’Brien. He said, “This is what you need: beautiful women, of course.” He also mentioned that there should be “beautiful men for the ladies.” Conan asked if it would be better to just have lots of beautiful women and one guy, but Diddy replied, “Nah, there’s enough ladies to go around.”
Diddy went on to say that it’s important to take care of the women at his parties. He mentioned, “You can’t force things to happen.” Then he talked about having “alcohol” and water at the parties, saying, “A lot of ladies drink water, so if you don’t have what they want, they’ll leave. You need to keep them there. You also need locks on the doors.”
Matt Heath: My parting message: Enjoy things while they are around
A lot of big, tragic and important things have happened to this wonderful country of ours since April 2014. None of which I have covered. I was too busy writing about hungover parenting, ancient philosophy and my dog Colin.
Out of the 536 columns I have written, 27 were about that guy. Far too few. He is such a good boy, he deserves an article a week.
Today is the end of an era for me, and whenever these final events pop up in our lives, we can’t help but think about the ultimate end.
Everything we do, we will one day do for the last time. That’s why you have to enjoy things while they are around. It’s not just big events like leaving a job, house or loved one either. Whatever moment you happen to be in now, you will never get it back, and you don’t know how many more you have.
Everything we do in life, from eating pizza to spending time with the people we love, to driving, writing, drinking or breathing, we will one day experience for the final time. It might happen tomorrow. This can be either a depressing or an inspiring thought, depending on how you look at it.
A few years back in this column, I interviewed professor of philosophy William B Irvine, of Wright State University, Ohio, on this very topic. He put it this way on a Zoom call: “Recognition of the impermanence of everything in life can invest the things we do with a significance and intensity that would otherwise be absent. The only way we can be truly alive is if we make it our business periodically to entertain thoughts of the end.”
Today’s column is very meaningful to me because it is my last. Like the last night with a lover before she goes overseas. And just like a lover, there have been some half-arsed efforts put in from me over the years. Last week, for example, I spent 750 words moaning about how bad my cricket team is. But the truth is that any of my columns could have been the final. If I had reminded myself every week for the past 10 years that the end is inevitable, I may have been more grateful for having a column and appreciated writing them all as much as I am this one.
While everything we do could have more meaning with a focus on finitude, some things are inherently more worthwhile than others. There is no doubt my column “The pros and cons of wearing Speedos” from November 2022 was less meaningful than most things in this world. That was a waste of everyone’s time. So, if we only have so much time, how do we pick the best things to do?
Well, Oliver Burkeman, the author of Four Thousand Weeks – Time Management For Mortals, suggested this to me in a 2022 column: “Ask yourself, does this choice enlarge me? You usually know on some unspoken level if it does. That’s a good way to distinguish between options.”
With that in mind, I don’t feel great about my 2018 article on “New Zealand’s best hole”. That didn’t enlarge anyone.
There will be people reading this column right now who have loved my writing in the Herald and are sad to see it end. Others will have hated it and are glad to see me go. Many won’t have any opinion at all. But for those in the first camp, I have good news. I have a book coming out on May 28 called A Life Less Punishing – 13 Ways To Love The Life You Got (Allen and Unwin Book Publishers). It’s a deep dive into the history, philosophy and science of not wasting our time lost in anger, loneliness, humiliation, stress, fear, boredom and all the other ways we find to not enjoy perfectly good lives. It’s available for pre-order right now (google it if you’re interested).
A Life Less Punishing took me two years to write and is equivalent in words to 100 of these columns. Which would be a complete nightmare for those in the hate camp, but as I say, great news for those who want more.
Anyway, thanks to the Herald for having me, thanks to the lovely people who make an effort to say nice things to me about my column nearly every day and thanks to the universe for every single second we get.
Bless!
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