It was anticipated that Jennifer Grey, who played “Baby” in the iconic movie Dirty Dancing, would have much better employment chances.
However, it was not intended to be. Rather, a horrible incident drastically altered everything and forced her to permanently quit the film industry.
Jennifer Grey has finally opened out about the terrible period of her life that left her permanently traumatized after many years.
But the cast and crew knew what they had done as soon as Dirty Dancing hit theaters in August 1987.
Patrick Swayze, the male protagonist, was successful right away. He became well-known as a teen idol and sex icon before starring in popular films like Ghost and Donnie Darko.
However, his co-star Jennifer Grey wasn’t doing well when the movie came out, and she quickly disappeared. Jennifer Grey disappeared as abruptly as she had appeared amid the joy and celebrations.
Additionally, the actress was absent from the media for a very long time.
However, in a recent interview, she talked candidly about the accident that changed her life.
However, let’s first look at Jennifer Grey’s life before to the tragic event that occurred in the summer of 1987.
Jennifer Gray started attending dance classes at a young age. Her father may have urged her to seek a career in entertainment when she was born in New York in 1960. Her father, Joel Gray, was an actor, singer, dancer, photographer, and director.
During her time at Dalton School, Jennifer focused on dancing and acting. After graduating in 1978, she enrolled in the Neighborhood Playhouse School of the Theater and began looking for performing roles. At the same time, her life was not exactly a dance on roses. Jennifer was compelled to work as a waitress to help pay the expenses.
She managed to land a few TV commercial jobs despite this, including one for Dr. Pepper. Her first acting role was in the 1984 movie “Reckless.” She received a big break a few years later when she starred as Frances “Baby” Houseman in the film “Dirty Dancing.”
Author Eleanor Bergstein’s childhood served as a major inspiration for the story of this well-loved film. Jennifer became well-known overnight and received a Golden Globe nomination for Best Actress.
Unfortunately, she was never able to capitalize on the enormous success.
Shortly before the film’s August 1987 release, Grey and her then-boyfriend Matthew Broderick were residing in Ireland.
However, the pair suffered a terrible car accident when Broderick struck another vehicle while driving on the wrong side of the road. A woman and her daughter were in the second car, and they both perished instantly.
Eventually, the charge of reckless driving against Broderick was dropped in favor of reckless driving. Jennifer Grey’s psychological wounds remained even if she only had minor physical injuries like bruises.
Dirty Dancing made its debut just a few days later. However, Grey was unable to enjoy the film in spite of its widespread appeal.
It just didn’t make sense to contrast that intense suffering, the survivor’s guilt, and then being heralded as the next big thing. Being the talk of the town didn’t feel good, according to Grey.
The trauma induced by the accident will never fully heal the actress.
“My ambition was never the same, and my brain was never the same,” she said.
Hellish nose job
She fought survivor’s guilt, disappeared for a few years in the early 1990s, and then reappeared in a 1995 Friends episode.
By then, she had had plastic surgery, and her face was a whole makeover.
It was similar to being in a witness protection program or feeling anonymous. The nose job was the worst I’ve ever had. No one will ever identify me as the former well-known actress with the nose job.
Jennifer’s Hollywood career was sporadic after that.
By 2010, Jennifer had re-established herself in the mainstream media. After winning the TV show “Dancing with the Stars,” she was once again a passionate fan favorite. That was something that was important to her, she said.
“I feel like I’ve starved myself because I’m afraid of what other people think of me,” the celebrity remarked. “It’s like eating a wonderful steak after being on a diet for 23 years.”
In 2018, Grey returns to the public eye once more. Both “Untogether” and the upcoming comedy “Red Oaks” will include her.
We’re so happy that you’re back to being enthusiastic and happy, Jennifer!
Now, who else is nostalgic enough to wish to go back to 1987? Below is the famous scene from Dirty Dancing. Such lovely recollections!
Matt Heath: My parting message: Enjoy things while they are around
A lot of big, tragic and important things have happened to this wonderful country of ours since April 2014. None of which I have covered. I was too busy writing about hungover parenting, ancient philosophy and my dog Colin.
Out of the 536 columns I have written, 27 were about that guy. Far too few. He is such a good boy, he deserves an article a week.
Today is the end of an era for me, and whenever these final events pop up in our lives, we can’t help but think about the ultimate end.
Everything we do, we will one day do for the last time. That’s why you have to enjoy things while they are around. It’s not just big events like leaving a job, house or loved one either. Whatever moment you happen to be in now, you will never get it back, and you don’t know how many more you have.
Everything we do in life, from eating pizza to spending time with the people we love, to driving, writing, drinking or breathing, we will one day experience for the final time. It might happen tomorrow. This can be either a depressing or an inspiring thought, depending on how you look at it.
A few years back in this column, I interviewed professor of philosophy William B Irvine, of Wright State University, Ohio, on this very topic. He put it this way on a Zoom call: “Recognition of the impermanence of everything in life can invest the things we do with a significance and intensity that would otherwise be absent. The only way we can be truly alive is if we make it our business periodically to entertain thoughts of the end.”
Today’s column is very meaningful to me because it is my last. Like the last night with a lover before she goes overseas. And just like a lover, there have been some half-arsed efforts put in from me over the years. Last week, for example, I spent 750 words moaning about how bad my cricket team is. But the truth is that any of my columns could have been the final. If I had reminded myself every week for the past 10 years that the end is inevitable, I may have been more grateful for having a column and appreciated writing them all as much as I am this one.
While everything we do could have more meaning with a focus on finitude, some things are inherently more worthwhile than others. There is no doubt my column “The pros and cons of wearing Speedos” from November 2022 was less meaningful than most things in this world. That was a waste of everyone’s time. So, if we only have so much time, how do we pick the best things to do?
Well, Oliver Burkeman, the author of Four Thousand Weeks – Time Management For Mortals, suggested this to me in a 2022 column: “Ask yourself, does this choice enlarge me? You usually know on some unspoken level if it does. That’s a good way to distinguish between options.”
With that in mind, I don’t feel great about my 2018 article on “New Zealand’s best hole”. That didn’t enlarge anyone.
There will be people reading this column right now who have loved my writing in the Herald and are sad to see it end. Others will have hated it and are glad to see me go. Many won’t have any opinion at all. But for those in the first camp, I have good news. I have a book coming out on May 28 called A Life Less Punishing – 13 Ways To Love The Life You Got (Allen and Unwin Book Publishers). It’s a deep dive into the history, philosophy and science of not wasting our time lost in anger, loneliness, humiliation, stress, fear, boredom and all the other ways we find to not enjoy perfectly good lives. It’s available for pre-order right now (google it if you’re interested).
A Life Less Punishing took me two years to write and is equivalent in words to 100 of these columns. Which would be a complete nightmare for those in the hate camp, but as I say, great news for those who want more.
Anyway, thanks to the Herald for having me, thanks to the lovely people who make an effort to say nice things to me about my column nearly every day and thanks to the universe for every single second we get.
Bless!
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