I Told My Date about My Specific 3-Year-Rule, but He Immediately Left and Blocked Me – Is It Really That Weird?

Addison’s life revolves around her demanding job as a neurologist, leaving little time for romance. When her cheerful coworker Nathan sets her up on a blind date with a seemingly perfect guy named Jake, she finally feels a spark of hope. However, after Addison shares her three-year dating rule, her date abruptly leaves. What went wrong?

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I always thought my life would stay the same.

Day in and day out, the hospital consumed all my time.

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My name is Addison, and I work as a neurologist. My days are filled with patients, charts, and endless rounds.

It’s a fulfilling job, but it leaves little room for anything else, especially dating.

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A busy young woman | Source: Midjourney

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One day, while grabbing a quick coffee in the break room, my coworker Nathan walked in with a bright smile on his face.

Nathan is always in a good mood, no matter how stressful the day gets.

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A smiling doctor | Source: Midjourney

“Hey, Addison,” Nathan said, leaning against the counter. “How do you feel about blind dates?”

I laughed, almost spilling my coffee. “Blind dates? Nathan, you know my schedule. I barely have time to eat, let alone date.”

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Two professionals laughing and chatting | Source: Midjourney

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Nathan chuckled. “I know, but hear me out. My friend Jake is a great guy. He’s kind, funny, and I think you two would hit it off. What do you say?”

I paused, considering it. I hadn’t been on a date in ages, and the idea of meeting someone new was intriguing. Plus, Nathan seemed genuinely excited about it.

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A couple enjoying drinks | Source: Pexels

“Okay, then,” I said, smiling. “You’ve convinced me. When’s this magical date happening?”

Nathan’s face lit up. “Really?? How about next Tuesday night? It’s the only evening that works for both of you!”

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Next Tuesday. I mentally checked my calendar. It was one of the rare nights I didn’t have a late shift or any other commitments.

“Next Tuesday works for me,” I said. “Let’s do it.”

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A female doctor talking to a male doctor | Source: Midjourney

Nathan grinned. “Great! I’ll set it up and text you the details. You won’t regret this, Addison,” he said with a wink.

“We’ll see that,” I laughed and finished my coffee quickly.

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As I walked back to my office, I felt both excited and nervous. It had been so long since I had gone on a date.

My life had become a routine of work and more work, with little time for anything else. But maybe this was what I needed — a chance to step out of my comfort zone.

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A doctor lost in her work | Source: Midjourney

The rest of the day flew by in a blur of patient consultations and medical charts. But in the back of my mind, I kept thinking about the upcoming date. Maybe, just maybe, this blind date with Jake would be the start of something new.

On Tuesday night, I arrived at the quaint restaurant Nathan had suggested.

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It was cozy, with dim lighting and a warm ambiance that immediately put me at ease. As I walked in, I spotted a man sitting at a table near the window.

He looked up, smiled, and waved me over.

This must be Jake, I thought to myself.

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A smiling man at a table | Source: Midjourney

“Addison?” he asked as I approached the table.

“Yes, and you must be Jake,” I replied with a smile.

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We shook hands, and I took a seat. Almost immediately, the waitress came over to take our drink orders.

“I’ll have a glass of red wine, please,” I said.

“I’ll have the same,” Jake added.

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Two people enjoying wine | Source: Freepik

As the waitress left, we started chatting. Jake was easy to talk to, and I felt my initial nervousness melt away.

“So, Nathan tells me you’re a neurologist,” he said, looking genuinely interested. “That must be a challenging job.”

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“It is,” I nodded. “But I love it. What about you? What do you do?”

“I’m a graphic designer,” Jake replied. “I work freelance, so my schedule is pretty flexible. It’s a lot of fun, especially when I get to work on creative projects.”

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A person working on their laptop | Source: Pexels

Our drinks arrived, and we ordered appetizers — stuffed mushrooms and bruschetta. As we nibbled on the delicious food, we continued to talk about our lives, hobbies, and interests.

“I love hiking and photography,” Jake said, taking a sip of his wine. “There’s something about being in nature that’s so refreshing.”

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“I’ve always wanted to get into photography,” I said. “But I never seem to find the time. Maybe you could give me some tips?”

“I’d love to,” Jake said with a smile. “It’s all about finding the right light and angle.”

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As the evening went on, I found myself more and more charmed by Jake. He was kind, funny, and easy to talk to.

We laughed a lot, and it felt like I had known him for much longer than just one evening.

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As we moved on to our main course, Jake looked at me with a smile. “So, Addison, how about we ask each other some more personal questions to break the ice further?”

“Sure, that sounds good,” I said. “What do you want to know?”

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Food | Source: Unsplash

Jake leaned in slightly. “How about your one-to-five-year plan? What are your goals?”

I took a moment to think. “Well, I hope to advance in my career as a neurologist,” I began.

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“Maybe get promoted to a senior position. I also want to decorate my apartment; it feels too plain right now,” I continued. “I’ve been thinking about getting a pet, maybe a cat or a small dog. And I’d love to travel more, see new places, and experience different cultures. Oh, and I want to expand my bookshelf with my favorite novels. I love reading!”

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Pile of books and cup on top | Source: Unsplash

“That sounds wonderful. You have a lot of exciting plans!” he grinned.

“What about you?” I asked, curious to hear about his future plans.

“I want to grow my freelance business,” Jake said. “Maybe open my own studio one day. I also love traveling, so I’d like to visit more countries. And, believe it or not, I’ve been thinking about getting a pet too. A dog, probably.”

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We laughed at the coincidence, and it felt nice to find common ground!

“So, how do you feel about marriage and family?” Jake further asked as he sipped his wine.

And this is where it all went horribly wrong.

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“Honestly, I’d love to find a partner to share my life with,” I told him, “someone who understands and supports me. But marriage isn’t a necessity for me. If it happens, great, but if not, that’s okay too. As for children, I don’t see myself having any. For now. I’m happy with my career and personal goals.”

Jake leaned forward, looking serious. “What if you found the perfect guy? How long before you’d marry him?”

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Two people smiling at each other and standing close | Source: Freepik

“Three years,” I said. “I believe in building a strong foundation. Six months to really get to know someone, a year of serious dating, and a year and a half of living together before considering engagement or marriage.”

Jake’s face changed, his friendly expression replaced by a frown. He leaned back in his chair, crossing his arms. “Three years? That’s a long time. What if someone wants a quicker timeline?”

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I felt a knot forming in my stomach. “Well, uh, I think it’s important to take time to build a strong relationship. I’m pretty confident about my three-year-plan.”

Jake’s frown deepened, and he abruptly called the waitress. “Check, please,” he said curtly. She looked confused but quickly brought the bill.

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“Jake, what’s wrong?” I asked as he stood up, but he didn’t bother to answer. He paid and walked out of the restaurant without a glance back.

I sat there, stunned and hurt. What just happened?

Later, at home, I couldn’t stop thinking about the evening.

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A woman staring at her reflection | Source: Pexels

How could Jake just leave like that?

Deciding I needed answers, I messaged him.

I sent a selfie we took together and wrote, “Hey Jake, why did you leave so suddenly? I thought we were having a great time.”

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A few minutes later, his reply came: “Don’t contact me again. You’re indecisive and not serious about what you want.”

Then, he blocked me.

I stared at my phone in disbelief. Was I really that off base?

The next day at work, I noticed Nathan giving me strange glances. Gathering my courage, I decided to confront him.

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A man holding a phone in his hands | Source: Unsplash

“Nathan, what did Jake tell you? You know why he left, don’t you?” I asked, trying to keep my voice steady.

Nathan looked uncomfortable and shifted on his feet. “You messed it up, Addy,” he said. “Jake… told me you were wasting his time. He wanted something serious. He was looking for marriage, and you… you weren’t the best person for him. Sorry, I gotta go.”

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I couldn’t believe it.

During my lunch break, I called my best friend, Sophie.

“Hey, Addison. How did the date go?” was the first thing she asked.

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I sighed, feeling the weight of the evening pressing on me. “It started great, but then it ended terribly. Jake left abruptly after I talked about my three-year plan, and then he blocked me when I asked him why.”

Sophie’s eyes widened. “He did what? That’s ridiculous! What exactly happened?”

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A sad young doctor | Source: Midjourney

I recounted every detail, my voice trembling slightly as I relived the evening. When I finished, Sophie shook her head. “Addison, being honest about your expectations is important. If he couldn’t handle that, it’s his loss.”

“I can’t stop wondering if my three-year rule is really that strange, Sophie,” I admitted, my voice breaking a bit.

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“Not at all,” Sophie said firmly. “Everyone has their own timeline and needs. What matters is that you stay true to yourself. If he couldn’t appreciate that, he wasn’t the right guy for you.”

Her words wrapped around me like a comforting blanket. But it didn’t ease all my worries. Was I wrong to be upfront about my expectations? Should I have kept it to myself? All I know is that being honest about what I want is important, even if it means losing a date like Jake.

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My Granddaughter Said Her Wedding Was ‘For Her Friends’ and Didn’t Invite Me—Then She Found Out What I Was Going to Give Her

There are moments in life when someone you helped raise looks at you like you’re nothing but a burden. That’s what happened when my granddaughter told me I wasn’t welcome at her wedding because I didn’t “fit in.” What she didn’t know was, I had a gift planned for her… one she’d never see.

I’m Goldie, 65, and I’ve never been one for fancy things. My little house on Willow Lane has mismatched furniture and faded curtains that have seen better days. But what it lacks in luxury, it makes up for in memories. The walls have heard laughter, tears, and the pitter-patter of little feet… especially those of my granddaughters, Emily and Rachel.

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A picturesque house with a beautiful garden | Source: Unsplash

When their parents’ marriage fell apart, I stepped in. Not because anyone asked me to but because that’s what grandmothers do. I was there for every fever, nightmare, and science project. I clapped until my hands hurt at dance recitals and softball games.

I wasn’t just a grandmother… I became their safe place.

Rachel was always the quiet one… thoughtful and watching everything with those big brown eyes. Emily was my firecracker… bold and bright, demanding the world’s attention.

I loved them both fiercely and differently, but equally.

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Two young women in the kitchen | Source: Pexels

“Grandma, look!” Emily burst through my front door one Tuesday afternoon, her left hand extended, a diamond catching the light. “Jake proposed last night!”

My heart swelled as I pulled her into a hug. “Oh, sweetheart, that’s wonderful!”

“I can’t believe it,” she squealed, bouncing on her toes. “We’re thinking June for the wedding. And I need your help, Grandma. You know I’ve always wanted everything to be perfect.”

“Anything, sweetie. Whatever you need.”

Her eyes lit up. “Really? Because I found this dress…”

“Anything for you.”

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A bridal boutique | Source: Pexels

The bridal boutique smelled of vanilla and expensive fabric when I entered the following evening. Emily emerged from the dressing room in a cloud of white, her face glowing.

“What do you think?” she whispered, smoothing down the intricate lace.

I felt tears spring to my eyes. The price tag peeking out read $4,000… more than I’d ever spent on myself for anything. But the way she looked at her reflection like she was finally seeing her dreams materialize… that was worth every penny and more.

“It’s perfect,” I said, reaching for my checkbook. “Absolutely perfect.”

Emily threw her arms around me. “You’re the best, Grandma. I don’t know what I’d do without you.”

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A bride-to-be trying out her wedding gown | Source: Pexels

As weeks turned into months, my savings dwindled. The makeup artist she wanted was booked for a fashion show in Milan but we could squeeze her in for a premium. The shoes had to be custom-dyed to match exactly the shade of ivory in her dress. Each time, I nodded and wrote another check.

“June 15th,” Emily announced one evening over dinner. “We’ve set the date.”

I nearly dropped my fork. “The fifteenth? But that’s—”

“I know, I know,” she cut in, waving her hand dismissively. “It’s your birthday. But the venue was available, and it’s perfect. You don’t mind, right? It’ll make it even more special.”

I forced a smile. “Of course not, sweetie. It’ll be the best birthday present ever.”

She beamed, already scrolling through her phone to show me more details. On the day of my precious granddaughter’s wedding, I’d be turning 65, a milestone I wanted to celebrate together.

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Cropped shot of an older woman holding her 65th birthday cake | Source: Pexels

“Do you want me to help with the invitations?” I asked.

Emily looked up. “Oh, don’t worry about that. I’ve got it all under control.”

***

June arrived in a burst of sunshine and wildflowers. I spent the morning of the fifteenth carefully applying makeup, trying to cover the signs of age that seemed to deepen by the day.

I chose a lovely dress that Rachel once said brought out the green in my eyes, and fastened my mother’s pearls around my neck. I had to look amazing on my granddaughter’s big day.

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An outdoor wedding set up | Source: Unsplash

“You look beautiful, Grandma,” Rachel said from my doorway. She’d come early to drive me to the venue… a restored barn in the countryside that Emily had fallen in love with.

“Think so?” I smoothed down the jacket. “Not too old-fashioned?”

“Nope!”

***

When we arrived at the barn, it was already buzzing with activity. Florists arranged centerpieces while caterers bustled around with trays of appetizers. Emily was in one of the side rooms that had been converted into a bridal suite.

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A bride sitting in a bridal suite | Source: Unsplash

I knocked softly before entering. “Emily?”

She turned, resplendent in the dress I’d purchased, her hair swept up elegantly. For a moment, I saw the little girl who used to crawl into my lap for stories.

“You look stunning, sweetheart,” I whispered.

Emily’s smile faltered as her eyes swept over me and her brow furrowed. “Grandma, why are you all dressed up?”

“For the wedding, of course.”

She laughed as she fixed her shoe. “Wait… you thought you were coming to the ceremony?”

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A bride laughing while fixing her shoe | Source: Unsplash

“I… yes. I assumed…”

Emily’s eyes narrowed. “But you never got an invitation.”

“I thought it was an oversight, dear. With all the planning…”

She crossed her arms. “It wasn’t a mistake, Grandma. This day is for my friends… people MY AGE. I didn’t want some elderly presence killing the vibe, you know?”

The word “elderly” hit me like a slap. I’d helped raise this child, had held her through heartbreaks, and celebrated her victories. And she didn’t want me at her… wedding?

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A stunned elderly woman | Source: Freepik

“Besides,” she continued, examining her manicure, “it’s going to be loud and wild. Definitely not your scene. I figured you’d understand.”

I couldn’t find my voice and the room seemed to shrink around me.

Rachel, who had been silent by the door, suddenly stepped forward. “Are you serious right now, Em? She bought your dress. She paid for half of this wedding!”

“So what? That doesn’t mean she gets to crash it.”

Crash it? As if I were some unwelcome stranger.

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An annoyed woman | Source: Pexels

“Come on, Grandma,” Rachel said, taking my hand. “We’re leaving. You don’t deserve this.”

I let her lead me out, my legs moving mechanically. Behind us, I heard Emily call out to her wedding planner about some last-minute detail, already moving on.

“I’m so sorry,” Rachel whispered as we reached the car. “I had no idea she would do that.”

I stared out the window as we drove away from the barn, past the arriving guests in their summer finery. “It’s okay,” I lied. “It’s her day.”

“No. It’s not okay, Grandma. And I have a better idea for today.”

“What is it, dear?”

“You’ll see.”

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A young woman holding an elderly lady’s hand | Source: Freepik

The restaurant Rachel took me to was nothing like the rustic wedding venue. It was small and elegant, with white tablecloths and candles casting a warm glow over everything.

“Happy birthday,” she said as the waiter brought us menus. “I made these reservations weeks ago. I knew that even with the wedding, we needed to celebrate you.”

I tried to smile, but my lips trembled. “Oh, sweetie… you didn’t have to do that.”

“Yes, I did.” Rachel reached across the table and squeezed my hand. “You’ve been there for every single one of my birthdays. Did you think I’d forget yours?”

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Close-up shot of a young woman reassuring an older person by holding their hands | Source: Freepik

After we ordered, she handed me a small, carefully wrapped box. Inside was a vintage brooch… a delicate silver locket with intricate filigree that I’d admired in an antique shop downtown months ago.

“I remembered you looking at it, Grandma. You never buy nice things for yourself, so I wanted to.”

The tears I’d been holding back all day finally spilled over. “It’s beautiful, honey.”

We ate and talked, and for a while, I almost forgot about the morning’s humiliation. As we were finishing dessert, a chocolate cake with a single candle that Rachel had specially ordered, I made a decision.

“Rachel,” I said, reaching into my purse. “I had a wedding gift prepared for Emily. But after today… I want you to have it instead.”

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A purse on the table | Source: Unsplash

I pulled out an envelope and slid it across the table. Rachel opened it, her eyes widening as she saw the deed inside.

“Grandma, this is your house!” she whispered. “You can’t give me your house.”

I covered her hand with mine. “I can, and I want to. I’m getting older, and that place is too big for me now. I was going to give it to Emily, but… I want it to go to someone who sees me as a person and not just a checkbook.”

“But this is too much,” Rachel protested, tears filling her eyes.

“It’s not enough, dear. Not for what you’ve given me today.”

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A woman opening an envelope | Source: Pexels

The next morning, I was in my kitchen making tea when the front door burst open with such force that the pictures on the wall rattled.

Emily stormed in, her makeup smeared. She looked wild and unhinged.

“Where is it?” she demanded, her voice echoing through the house. “Where’s my wedding gift?”

I set my teacup down carefully. “Good morning to you too, Emily.”

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An emotional woman with messy eyeliner | Source: Pexels

“Don’t!” She jabbed a finger toward me. “Rachel told me what you did. The house… you were going to give me this house! You promised!”

“I never promised you anything. And yesterday, you made it very clear where I stand in your life.”

“That’s not fair! You can’t punish me for wanting one day to be about me and not you!”

“Is that what you think happened? That I wanted to steal your spotlight?”

“You’re just bitter because you’re old and alone! And now you’re trying to turn Rachel against me!”

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A furious woman holding her head | Source: Pexels

Rachel appeared in the doorway, her face pale. “Em, stop. You’re being horrible.”

“Oh, shut up,” Emily snarled. “You’ve always been jealous of me. And now you’ve manipulated Grandma into giving you the house that was supposed to be mine!”

I placed my palms flat on the counter, steadying myself. “Emily, look at me.”

She did, her eyes blazing.

“You had no space for me at your wedding. So I found I had no space for you in my gift. It’s that simple.”

“But you paid for everything!” she cried. “My dress, my shoes, the stylist—”

“Yes. Because I love you. But love isn’t just about giving things, Emily. It’s about seeing people. And yesterday, you looked right through me.”

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Wedding accessories and outfit | Source: Pexels

Emily’s lips trembled. For a moment, I thought I glimpsed regret in her eyes. But then she drew herself up, her shoulders squared.

“Fine,” she hissed. “Keep your stupid house. Give it to the golden child. See if I care.”

She stormed out, the door slamming behind her with finality.

Rachel and I stood in silence for a long moment.

“Thank you, Grandma. For seeing me,” she said.

I pulled her into a hug.

“No, darling. Thank you… for letting me be seen.”

As I held her, I realized something important: Family isn’t always about blood or history. Sometimes, it’s simply about who chooses to stay when they have every reason to walk away. And in that choice, we find out who we really are.

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A delighted elderly woman looking at a young lady | Source: Pexels

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