I take it that everyone of us must navigate our own lives and take responsibility for our decisions? However, it is in our nature as humans to want to help friends who are actually in need. However, what would you do if your friend—the one you always stand by—started confiding in you about all of their issues, repeatedly, and with no sign of stopping? This Reddit member is exactly in that predicament. She wondered if she was managing the matter with her buddy correctly, so she looked to the large internet community for advice.
I(32F) am a single mother of two kids (6M and 5m F). I am a single mother by choice (my kids are donor conceived).
I am lucky enough to have a good job (French teacher in a private school), and a paid off house (parents’ life insurance and inheritance).
Before I had either of my kids, I made sure to have a year’s living expenses saved, then I would take a sabbatical to recover from birth, as well as bond with my kids. While on sabbatical, I still tutor some kids for some extra income.
My friend (34F), just had a baby 2 months ago. She is the breadwinner in her household, and her husband has been unemployed since he was laid off during COVID.
It was great to be pregnant at the same time, as well as having a friend with a newborn. But it has turned sour.
She has been saying how jealous she is of me being able to take off a whole year from work, how she would have loved to not worry about losing their home, how she doesn’t even have a couple hundred dollars in her savings account, let alone a whole year’s worth of living expenses….
I usually ignore it, or brush it off, because I kind of can understand the stress she is under.
Well, starting about 10 days ago, she started hinting at not being able to afford daycare, and any mention of her husband taking care of their kid is brushed off. Then she started remarking on how much free time I must have, which I deflected by saying -truthfully- that being a single mom to a baby and a small kid left me no free time actually.
Then last night she came out with it, and asked if I could “do her a favor” and watch her kid while she’s at work. I was firm, but polite, when I said that I couldn’t, that I am not capable of watching two kids under 6 months.
She started almost begging me, saying she can’t afford daycare, and if she is not back at work, she will lose her job, and they will end up homeless. I again brought up her husband, and she said that he was not good with kids, and isn’t capable of taking care of her kid.
I kept saying no, she kept pushing, until it escalated to her calling me heartless, and me telling her that it’s not my problem she chose to have a kid with a useless man.
Now she blocked me, I am feeling very guilty about what I said, and feeling like an AH.
If You Have These Cabinets Above Your Fridge, Here’s the Surprising Reason Why
A neat, tidy home where everything has its place feels so much better to live in. If you’re like me, focusing on things is hard when there’s clutter, or when things just don’t seem to belong where they are.
But it wasn’t always this way for me. When I was younger, I didn’t care much about keeping things organized around the house. Looking back, I owe my mom for the way I keep things neat now. Our house was always so organized it could’ve been in a magazine.
My mom shared a lot of tips with me, especially on using those small cupboards that many kitchens have above the fridge. You know the ones I’m talking about? If you have them too, keep reading to learn some ideas for making the most of them.
At first glance, those small cupboards above the fridge might not seem all that useful.
They’re usually not big enough for larger items, and putting everyday things like plates or cups up that high isn’t very practical.
So, what should you do with them?
If you’re wondering how to make use of those small cupboards above your fridge, here are some handy tips!
**Storage for Kitchen Gadgets You Rarely Use**
These cupboards aren’t the best spot for things you use every day, but they’re perfect for items that only come out occasionally. This could include things like food processors, blenders, or waffle makers that you don’t need all the time.
**Canned Goods and Baking Supplies**
Most canned foods and baking supplies have long shelf lives, so it’s okay if they sit out of reach for a while. Consider storing cans or baking items up here if you only need them now and then, like weekend baking ingredients.
**Cookbooks**
If you have cookbooks you’d like to keep tidy and out of the way, this high cupboard can be a good storage place. I actually use mine for this purpose, and it keeps my books organized without taking up counter space.
Here are some more ideas for using those small cupboards above your fridge!
**Pantry Items and Spices**
Just like canned foods, some pantry items and spices can fit well in these cupboards. You might also use a small spice rack to keep your cooking spices organized and out of the way up here.
**Kitchen Towels**
If you buy kitchen towels in bulk, this can be a good storage space for them. Keeping them up high saves room in other drawers and keeps them organized.
**Special Occasion China**
If you have fine china or special cutlery that’s only used for special occasions, storing them above the fridge might make sense. It keeps them safe and out of reach of children.
**Safety Tips**
Always be careful with these cupboards. Avoid storing anything too heavy that could be hard to lift down safely. A sturdy stool or step ladder is best for reaching these items, and remember that the heat from the fridge below can make this space unsuitable for certain items.
What do you use your above-fridge cupboards for? Let us know!
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