In a timeless tale of romance, Naval Officer Zack Mayo swept factory worker Paula into his arms and carried her from her workplace, leaving fans everywhere wishing they were the beautiful Debra Winger.
The legendary scene in the romantic drama an Officer and a Gentleman–where Richard Gere played Officer Zack Mayo, the handsome hero in navy whites–became the benchmark of love stories for daydreaming fans.
Acting alongside Hollywood’s hottest men, Debra Winger was the envy of many.
Today, Winger, 67, is as beautiful as ever. In the past few years, Winger has posted photos herself on Instagram, first with brown hair and now to a natural wavy gray.
Winger’s first starring role was in the 1976 film Slumber Party ‘57, which led to a part on the hit TV series Wonder Woman (1979), where she played Drusilla, the younger sister to Lynda Carter’s Diana Prince/Wonder Woman. Winger was asked to appear more often but concerned she’d be typecast by that role, she declined.
There were no regrets for that decision, the early ‘80s would be prosperous for the rising star.
At the height of her young career, she received numerous nods from the Academy and Golden Globes for performances in three iconic movies of the 1980’s.
In 1980, she starred in Urban Cowboy, with John Travolta, who at the time was driving fans wild with his smooth dance moves in Saturday Night Fever (1977) and Grease (1988); as Paula in an Officer and a Gentleman (1982) and in Terms of Endearment (1983), where she played Emma, a dying young woman with an over-bearing mother, Aurora, played by Shirley MacLaine.
Despite her huge success, Winger, carving hours from her acting schedule, took a mini Hollywood hiatus, and more than four decades after her rise to stardom, speculation of why she left is still circulating.
Most of these rumours revolve around the feuds that Winger had with her co-stars.
Though fans couldn’t get enough of the handsome Gere, it’s been widely reported that Winger had enough of him on the set.
According to an excerpt published on ABC News from the book, “An Actor and a Gentleman,” by co-star, Louis Gossett Jr., who played Sgt. Emil Foley: “The onscreen chemistry between the two of them was terrific, but it was a different story once the camera was turned off. They couldn’t have stayed farther apart from each other.”
Gossett also claims that Winger didn’t think much of Gere’s acting and wrote that she once described Gere as “a brick wall.” And, the film’s director, Taylor Hackford, whom she also did not likе, she referred to as “animal.”
It wasn’t only people on that film that ruffled her feathers.
Winger, a free spirit in real life and in her role as Emma, also clashed with the prolific MacLaine, a glamourous, eccentric and seasoned veteran.
Their first meeting set the stage for their relationship.
“To see how my character would feel I was wearing all my leftover movie-star fur coats,” MacLaine said in an interview with People. “There was Debra dressed in combat boots and a miniskirt…I thought, ‘Oh my goodness.’”
People writes, “Indeed, the set became the source of Hollywood’s most relished rumors. Winger wanted top billing. One reportedly slugged the other.”
And then, the women were pitted against each other in the Oscars when they were both nominated for best actress.
MacLaine, taking the trophy home, said in her acceptance speech, “I deserve this!”
Rumors aside, Winger insists she “pushed the pause button” on Hollywood for personal reasons and not professional.
“The parts that were coming, I wasn’t interested in. I’d already done that or I’d already felt that. I needed to be challenged. My life challenged me more than the parts, so I dove into it fully,” Winger told People.
After starring in the 1995 romcom Forget Paris with Billy Crystal, Winger took a six-year break.
In that time, she moved to New York City and shifted her focus to actor Arliss Howard, whom she married in 1996. The pair have a son, Gideon Babe, who was born in 1997, and she is stepmother to Sam, Howard’s son from a previous marriage. She also has another biological child, Noah Hutton, whom she mothered while married to her first husband, Timothy Hutton (1986 to 1990).
She reappeared in the 2001 film Big Bad Love, that was directed and produced by her husband, who also co-starred alongside Winger and Rosanna Arquette, who’s next project was 2002 film Searching for Debra Winger. As director of the documentary, Arquette attempts to answer why Winger temporarily аbаndоned her career at peak performance.
Winger gained some momentum with roles in Rachel Getting Married (2008) with Anne Hathaway, the 2017 romcom The Lovers, and the crime-comedy, Kajillionaire (2020).
In 2021, she was in With/In, Volume two of the anthological drama film, in the segment Her Own, which is written and directed by her husband, who also co-stars.
“I don’t know what Hollywood is. I’m living under the freaking sign now, and I just stare at it and laugh. Los Angeles is a place, but the idea of Hollywood doesn’t really exist for me,” Winger said, adding, “…although there must be some in-crowds that I just don’t know about.”
We can’t imagine a Hollywood without Debra Winger and we hope she soon gets to take home an Academy Award ! What are your favorite Winger movies?
My Stepmother Kicked Me Out While My Father Stayed Silent — Days Later, They Were on Their Knees Begging for Forgiveness
When my stepmother packed my things and my father stood by in silence, I thought I had lost everything. But just days later, they showed up at my door, begging for a second chance—and by then, my life had already changed forever.
My name’s Elena. I’m 23, just finished college, and still trying to figure out my life. I thought moving back home for a few months would help.
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I thought I could save some money, find a job, and get on my feet. I didn’t think it would end the way it did.
When I lost my mom at 14, my whole world cracked. My dad was heartbroken too. For a while, it was just the two of us. Quiet dinners, soft lights, old movies we both loved. I held on to those days like they were gold.
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Then he met Carol.
I tried. God knows, I tried. I stayed out of her way. I cleaned up without being asked. I kept my head down. But it didn’t matter.
“You’re not my problem,” she said once when I asked her if she wanted help setting the table.
My dad just sighed. “Let’s not make waves, kiddo,” he mumbled, staring at the floor.
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It got worse with time. If I forgot to unload the dishwasher? She acted like I set the house on fire.
“Elena, you have to carry your weight,” she’d snap, hands on hips, rolling her eyes like I was five.
When I turned 18, I left for college faster than I could pack a bag. Four years of peace. Four years of quiet. Four years of missing my mom and remembering how loud Carol’s voice could get.
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Coming home after graduation wasn’t my first choice. But money was tight. Jobs were thin. It was supposed to be temporary.
Carol didn’t see it that way.
The first night I was back, she barely looked at me during dinner. She pushed her peas around her plate and said, “So… any plans to get your own place soon?”
My dad coughed into his napkin. “Give her a minute, Carol,” he said, voice low.
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She smiled, but it didn’t reach her eyes. “We all have to grow up sometime.”
I bit my lip and nodded. I told myself it was just stress. I told myself she’d warm up. I told myself Dad would step up if she didn’t.
I was wrong.
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Every day felt like walking on glass. If I used the washing machine too late? She complained about the noise. If I left my shoes by the door? She huffed and moved them. Every little thing I did seemed to set her off.
One morning, over coffee, she leaned on the counter and said, “You know, Elena, it’s not healthy to be this dependent. You’re not a kid anymore.”
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I stared at my cup. “I’m trying. I’m applying everywhere.”
She snorted. “Trying isn’t doing.”
Dad cleared his throat. “Let’s not fight, okay?”
I wanted him to say more. I wanted him to tell her to back off. He didn’t.
The tension built like a storm cloud over the house. I started staying out longer, sending out resumes from coffee shops, crashing on friends’ couches when I could.
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One afternoon, after a long interview across town, I came home to find something that made my heart stop.
Boxes. All my stuff packed up, sitting on the front porch like I was trash waiting for pickup. Carol stood in the doorway with her arms crossed. She smiled like she’d just won a game.
“I think it’s best for everyone if you move out,” she said.
I looked past her. My dad was there. Standing behind her. Silent.
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“Dad?” My voice cracked.
He rubbed the back of his neck. “Maybe this is for the best, kiddo.”
I felt like the ground gave out under me. I didn’t yell. I didn’t cry. I just nodded and started picking up the boxes.
Carol didn’t even move to help. Dad just stood there, watching. I loaded my life into my car, one piece at a time, my chest hollow.
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As I drove away, I glanced in the mirror. They were still standing there, side by side. I didn’t know where I was going. I just knew I wasn’t going back.
I pulled up outside my best friend’s place. She opened the door, saw the look on my face, and pulled me into a hug without saying a word. That night, lying on her couch, staring at the dark ceiling, I thought it was the end of everything.
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But I didn’t know then that everything was about to change.
Three days after I left, still living out of boxes and spare clothes, something unexpected happened.
I was sitting on my friend’s couch, half-watching TV, half-scrolling through job ads, when there was a knock at the door. It wasn’t Carol. It wasn’t Dad. It was a delivery guy.
“Elena?” he asked, holding out a thick envelope.
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“Yeah, that’s me,” I said, signing for it.
Inside was a letter from a law office. I opened it with shaking hands.
“Dear Elena,
We regret to inform you of the passing of Ms. Helen, your godmother…”
I blinked. My godmother? I hadn’t seen her since I was a kid. I kept reading.
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“…In her final will and testament, Ms. Carter named you as her sole beneficiary. You are entitled to her residence, her savings account totaling approximately $230,000, and her fifty-percent ownership of Carter’s Floral Boutique, valued at approximately $180,000…”
I dropped the letter. My mouth hung open.
“Are you okay?” my friend asked.
“I…” I laughed and cried at the same time. “I think I just inherited a fortune.”
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The room spun a little. My hands shook. I hadn’t even known she was still thinking about me. And now, somehow, she had left me a home, a business, a life.
Someone had cared. Someone had seen me all along. It wasn’t just money. It was a second chance.
That weekend, I was still wrapping my mind around it when another knock came at the door.
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This time, it was them. Carol stood there first, holding a big bunch of flowers. White lilies. Expensive. Dad stood behind her, looking small and tired.
“Hi, Elena,” Carol said, her smile stretched tight. “We… we just wanted to see how you were doing.”
I crossed my arms. “What do you want?”
She laughed a little, fake and high. “We heard about… everything. And we realized we might have been a little harsh. We’re sorry.”
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Dad stepped forward, his voice low. “I’m sorry, kiddo. I should have been there for you. I messed up.”
I stared at him. He actually looked like he meant it. His hands were shaking a little.
Carol pushed the flowers at me. “We thought… maybe you could come back home. Just until you figure things out.”
I took the flowers. I smelled them. They were beautiful. They didn’t make me forget.
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“Thanks for the apology,” I said, keeping my voice steady. “But I have a place now.”
Carol’s mouth opened like she wanted to argue. Dad just nodded, eyes shining with regret.
“I hope you find what you’re looking for,” I said, and I closed the door. I didn’t slam it. I didn’t need to.
A month later, I moved into my new house.
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It was small, but it was perfect. Light blue shutters. A little garden in front. Quiet street.
Mine.
I spent the first night there sitting on the floor, eating pizza straight from the box, laughing and crying because I couldn’t believe it.
The business, “Carter’s Floral Boutique,” was run by a sweet older lady named Mrs. Jensen. She had known my godmother for years.
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“We’re so happy you’re here,” she said, handing me a fresh bouquet the first day I visited. “Helen always talked about you.”
I helped out at the shop a few days a week, learning the ropes. Flowers everywhere. Soft music. Smiles from customers. It wasn’t what I studied in college, but it felt right.
Money wasn’t a problem now. I could take my time. I could breathe.
Dad texted me once in a while.
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Hope you’re doing okay.
Saw some flowers today. Thought of you.
Miss you, kiddo.
I replied when I felt ready. I kept my heart guarded. We were starting over, slow and careful, like rebuilding a house brick by brick.
Carol didn’t text. I was fine with that.
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Sometimes at night, I sat on my porch and thought about everything that had happened.
Getting kicked out had felt like the end of the world. Like being thrown away.
But it wasn’t the end. It was the beginning.
If Carol hadn’t pushed me out, I might still be stuck there, small and scared. If Dad had stood up for me sooner, maybe I wouldn’t have learned how strong I really was.
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Life has a funny way of giving you what you need, even if it hurts like hell at first.
Now, when I pass a mirror, I see someone different. Someone who knows her worth. Someone who knows that sometimes, the worst day of your life can turn out to be the best thing that ever happened.
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