One-year-old Enzo Castari, of Cáceres, Brazil, was born with a noticeable birthmark that spans one side of his nose and covers most of his forehead. His mother, 26-year-old Carolina Giraldelli, vowed with all of her heart that her son would never let the mark define him and that he would always feel perfect in his own flesh.
Carolina said, “It was a trying time for both of us.” “Judging looks and murmurs met us; they were filled with fear, scorn, pity, and even disgust. To demonstrate Enzo that he is normal despite the mark, my spouse and I decided to act as though nothing was out of the ordinary. We want him to know that he is loved exactly the way he is, to be resilient, and to have faith in himself.
Carolina and her spouse put forth a lot of effort to fight the discrimination that Enzo encountered. “We explain that Enzo is a normal boy, capable of playing, making friends, and experiencing love just like any other child,” we say to those who react with unease, curiosity, or terror.
Carolina asked a friend who works as a cosmetic artist to replicate Enzo’s birthmark on her face for a particular event. She remarked, “I was touched and surprised.” “I thought I was the world’s most beautiful woman.” Enzo was ecstatic, despite his inability to completely comprehend the significance.
Carolina even wore the makeup to work. “I felt like the proudest mother in the world, but people looked at me differently,” she remarked.
The birth of Enzo was challenging because the umbilical cord was wound twice around his neck. Carolina initially believed the birthmark to be dirt, but when she learned it was permanent, she sobbed, but not in grief, but in relief that her son was well. She understood then that in order to support him in facing the outside world, she would need to be strong, brave, and bold.
Carolina was shocked by the amount of support she received after posting a picture of herself online with the painted birthmark. “There have been innumerable words of love, support, and consolation for my son,” she remarked. “I think a lot of moms would be able to relate to
+my emotions upon viewing these images.”
‘Families don’t have to look the same’ – Black couple talks about their experience adopting three white children
Sadie and Jarvis Sampson tried for years to have a baby, using every method they could think of. They eventually accepted that they might only ever be an aunt and uncle. Then, one day, they got a text that changed their lives completely.
The couple had been trying to get pregnant since they got married in January 2018, but when it didn’t happen on its own, they tried everything else.
“We used ovulation tests, took prenatal vitamins, tracked cycles with apps, and used fertility monitors,” the Houston mom told Love What Matters.
“We even tried advice from friends, family, and strangers. For 14 months, we tried, prayed, and waited. Month after month, it was always a negative pregnancy test. It seemed like we might need help to conceive, so we even talked to doctors about it.”
Doctors didn’t offer much help to the couple. They mostly told Sadie to lose weight to improve her chances of getting pregnant. With no other advice, she had gastric surgery and lost 28 pounds.
Sadie’s OBGYN was excited about the weight loss and praised her for it.
“She told me that if I wasn’t pregnant within six months, she would refer me to a fertility specialist because she couldn’t prescribe fertility medication herself,” Sadie said. “I was thrilled! We finally got a positive step forward, even if it wasn’t immediate. We were excited about the progress.”
Unfortunately, the couple didn’t get pregnant after Sadie lost the weight, and they felt like they were back where they started.
“I always felt like I was meant to be a mother,” Sadie said. “Even though my surgeon warned me that I’d be very fertile after the surgery, I still wasn’t getting pregnant. So, we gave up and accepted that we might just be aunt and uncle to our nieces and godparents to our goddaughters.”
Just when the couple had decided to stop trying to have a baby, Sadie got a text from a friend asking if they would think about fostering a baby from a couple she knew.
At first, the couple was hesitant because they were told by a caseworker to take care of the baby while the birth mom was getting treatment. They worried they might get too attached. But then, the situation changed.
“The birth mom has decided she wants you to adopt the baby instead,” the caseworker said.
Sadie remembered saying, “‘Holy crap!!’ out loud when she found out she was going to be a mom.
“We went from having no kids to possibly fostering one, to suddenly being told, ‘You’re going to be parents!’ I was still in shock as I listened to the caseworker. I hung up and called my husband, shouting, ‘Babe!! They want us to adopt the baby! We’re going to be parents!’ He said, ‘Wait! REALLY?! I thought they just wanted us to foster him!’ I told him, ‘Nope! They want us to be his mom and dad.’”
The couple spent the weekend trying to take in the shocking news and getting ready, just in case the birth mom changed her mind.
By Monday, they were not only told that the birth mom still wanted them to adopt the baby, but she also wanted to do an independent adoption and was ready to sign the papers that day.
Their baby boy was born at just 33 weeks, which is seven weeks early. He weighed 4 lbs. 5 oz. “He was so tiny, he literally fit in one of my husband’s hands,” Sadie wrote.
“He was wrapped in a white blanket with pink and blue stripes,” Sadie said. “He had a small tube coming out of his nose because he couldn’t eat on his own since he was born early. But he was so cute!!!”
The couple shared their news on social media and were encouraged to create a registry. They listed 72 items, and within just three days, 55 of them were already bought for them.
Ezra Lee’s adoption was finalized in October 2020, and the couple had adorable family photos taken, all wearing t-shirts that said, “Families don’t have to match.”
In 2021, Sadie and Jarvis became parents to twin girls, Journee and Destinee, through embryo donation. True to their family motto, “Families don’t have to match,” the Black couple now has three white children – a boy and two girls.
For anyone who might judge their beautiful family, they have just one response: their family is built on the strongest foundation ever – love.
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