The iconic 64-year-old country music hero Alan Jackson has captured the hearts of millions of people for more than 40 years with his timeless fusion of classic country music and honky-tonk rhythms. It is understandable that he has sold over 80 million records during his successful career given his immense contributions to the genre. However, his accomplishment is actually the result of a tale of perseverance and success in the face of hardship.
To the surprise of his devoted fan following, Alan disclosed last year that he had been diagnosed with a degenerative neurological condition. This information was received at a time when he and his family were still dealing with the untimely death of Mattie Jackson Selecman’s father, Ben Selecman. The family is still in deep grief over this terrible loss.
Despite these significant obstacles, Alan Jackson has used music as a means of self-expression and emotional healing. His albums “Where Have You Gone” (2021) and “Angels & Alcohol” (2015) are permanently marked by these very personal encounters. Alan honors the enduring love and priceless memories of those he has lost via his artistic creations.
As an Assistant District Attorney at the Davidson County District Attorney’s office, Ben Selecman was a rising star in his field. His sense of humor and unwavering dedication to his career are remembered with fondness by his colleagues. Everyone who knew him feels profoundly bereaved and left with a huge hole in their life.
Mattie Jackson, the daughter of Alan Jackson, has found comfort in her religion and her father’s unyielding support throughout this tragic time. They worked together on a strong song called “Racing the Dark,” which was a first for the father-daughter combination. This moving song is particularly meaningful to them both and is proof of the resilience that can arise even in the most painful circumstances.
Additionally, Mattie used her sorrow to fuel an incredible project by co-founding NaSHEville, a company that aims to empower women in Music City. “Lemons on Friday: Trusting God Through My Greatest Heartbreak,” her upcoming book, is a chronicle of her path of recovery and self-discovery. In this moving book, Mattie discusses her life’s extreme challenges, her spirit’s tenacity, and how these things helped her discover a new strength and purpose.
In a moving preface to the book, Alan and his wife, New York Times best-selling novelist Denise Jackson, discuss their own experiences and how they were able to find comfort and healing following the death of a family member. For others traversing the perilous waters of loss, their own journey serves as a beacon of hope.
Alan Jackson is adamant about his love of music and his desire to keep sharing it with the world even as he navigates his own health issues, particularly Charcot-Marie-Tooth syndrome, a degenerative nerve condition. The superstar of country music faces physical challenges as a result of this illness, but he is not letting it stop him from following his love. Alan’s steadfast dedication is evidence of his fortitude and willpower.
Let us offer Alan Jackson and his family our condolences and best wishes during these difficult times. We are appreciative of his music’s inspirational and joyful effects on our lives as fans. As we look forward to his upcoming performances and hold onto the classic songs that have become our lives’ soundtrack, may he find strength in the love and support of his loyal fan base.
If you see a purple butterfly sticker near a newborn, you need to know what it means
Only weeks after Millie Smith and Lewis Cann learned they were having twin baby girls, they learned that only one would survive.
On April 30, after 30 weeks of a high-risk pregnancy, Smith delivered identical twins, Callie and Skye, the latter who lived only three hours.
Later in neonatal intensive care unit (NICU), Callie slept without her sister in the incubator, with her loving and grieving parents watching over her. In the unit with other babies, an overwhelmed mom of healthy newborn twins innocently told Smith that she was “so lucky” to not have two babies.
Crushed by the words, the new mom couldn’t find the words to explain her loss. Then, she realized that Skye’s legacy was to help other families who lose a child, and it came in the form of a purple butterfly.
In November 2015 Millie Smith and partner Lewis Cann found out they were having their first Child. Smith, who has twins in the family, said she had a “gut feeling” about having a duo and 10 weeks later, doctors confirmed she was expecting identical twin girls.
Less than two weeks after the excitement of knowing they would double the children in their home, the British couple were devastated to learn that one of their babies had a fatal condition and wouldn’t survive after birth.
“During the scan, the doctor didn’t say anything. I was very excited and loved seeing the little babies, but she was silent. Both Lewis and I immediately knew there must be a problem,” Smith said.
Doctors shared the news that one of the babies had anencephaly, which according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) affects about one in 4,600 babies across the U.S. It’s a serious birth defect where a baby is born without parts of the brain and skull, and “almost all babies born with anencephaly will die shortly after birth.”
Knowing that one baby would die soon after birth, and that there were risks involved for their other baby, the couple decided to move forward with the extremely high-risk pregnancy.
Over the next several months, Smith and Cann named their twins Skye and Callie. “We knew that Skye needed to have a name before she was born,” Smith said. “Knowing she would only survive for seconds or minutes, I wanted her to be named during that time.”
The meaning behind “Skye,” she explained “was somewhere we knew she would always be, that we could look up at the sky and remember our baby.”
When Smith went into labor after only 30 weeks on April 30, she needed an emergency C-section. To help navigate the loss, the couple had a “bereavement midwife” during the birth, and they were put I a special room the called the “Daisy Room,” where families can spend time with a baby before and after she/he passes.
“When the girls were born, they both cried. This was a huge moment, as we were told that Skye would not make a noise or move,” said Smith, who was thankful to have three hours with Skye before she died. “We were cuddling Skye when she passed away. This was the worst moment in our lives. I have never ever felt heartbreak like that before. But I am proud that she fought for so long to spend time with us.”
Born premature, Callie had to stay in NICU while she gained some strength and also in the unit were three other sets of twin.
“Most of the nurses were aware of what had happened, but as time passed, people stopped talking about Skye. After about four weeks, everyone acted as though nothing had happened, meaning the families around me had no idea about our situation,” Smith recalled.
One morning, a stressed mother whose twins were also in NICU, harmlessly said to Smith that she was “so lucky” to not have twins.
“None of the other parents knew what had happened or anything about Skye. The comment was completely innocent and more out of humor…They weren’t to know that I did at one point have two.” Smith continued, “But the comment nearly broke me. I ran out [of] the room in tears and they had no idea why. I didn’t have the heart to tell them what had happened. A simple sticker would have avoided that entire situation.”
It was in that moment Smith realized she had to create something that would speak for parents who had just lost a baby, ensuring the misunderstanding never happens again.
She designed a poster for the NICU explaining both hospital personnel and visitors that any incubator with a purple butterfly on it means that one or more babies, in a set of multiples were lost.
“I chose butterflies, as I felt it was fitting to remember the babies that flew away, the color purple because it is suitable for both boys or girls,” said Smith.
The purple butterfly concept–now under the Skye High Foundation–has spread to hospitals in several countries around the world.
Callie is now a lively, happy seven-year-old, and twin’s memory lives in purple butterfly cards along with other initiatives to help families with babies like Skye all over the world. The purple butterflies now come in numerous forms, like ornaments, cards, blankets, stuffed animals and more.
“Ultimately I will never be able to stop this from happening but the more support groups we can set up and put things in place like the stickers the better it will be. It’s the hardest thing anyone has to deal with,” Smith said.
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