emi Lovato has explained why she switched from using they/them to she/her pronouns.
After starring in the critically acclaimed Disney films Camp Rock (2008) and Camp Rock 2: The Final Jam (2010), Lovato, 32, shot to fame.
She has also enjoyed success in the music industry; approximately 24 million recordings are thought to have been sold in the United States.
Regarding her gender identity and suality, Lovato has been exceedingly transparent with her fans throughout the years. In 2021, the vocalist of “Heart Attack” disclosed on Instagram that she is non-binary. The music sensation said,
“I’m excited to share more of my life with you all today and am proud to announce that I identify as non-binary and will be officially changing my pronouns to they/them going forward.” This is the result of extensive self-reflection and healing effort. I don’t
The singer of “Sorry Not Sorry” said that her early years in the South were “very confusing” and “not very open.”
Thankfully, it seems like Lovato is much more at ease disclosing information about her gender identity and s**uality these days. At YouTube Pride, she said that she was “thankful” to her family for “using my pronouns.”
Additionally, Lovato informed her followers that the shift occurred as she started to learn more about herself
The “Cool for the Summer” singer clarified in an interview with the music podcast Audacy Check-In: “I’ve utilized this time to truly investigate what feels right to me since I’ve learnt about gender identity and being non-binary or gender non-conforming.
“And after a year and a half of investigation, I came to the realization that it was time to share with the world my discomfort with being referred to as a’she’ or ‘her.’”Since it’s something new, I recognize that some people may find it difficult to get used to, but I want to encourage them to keep trying and let them know that it takes time to become used to.
Lovato acknowledged that she occasionally might even “mess up” while using pronouns.
Lovato disclosed on the show that she had developed intimate friendships with members of the LGBTQIA+ community in other places.
“My queer family has become more of a family than friends. I used to identify family as blood related,” the woman stated.
And it seems like I have two families right now. In addition to my biological family, I also have a gay family that I consider to be my chosen family.
Lovato’s engagement to singer and actor Max Ehrich ended a year before she came out as transgender.
The singer of “La La Land” later stated to Glamour that she thought their split was a blessing in disguise.
“As I got older, I realized how queer I really am,” she stated to the outlet. I was engaged to a man last year, and when that didn’t work out, I thought, “This is a big sign.”I had the idea that I would live a lifetime in a relationship. I was relieved that I could live my truth now that I wasn’t going to.
“And when I said goodbye to that relationship, I also said goodbye to everything that was holding me back from being my most authentic self,” Lovato continued during a visit at the 19th Represents Summit.
The pop singer also disclosed to the site that she wasn’t sure how her path of gender exploration would develop at the time.
“I may identify as transgender at some point in the future. I’m not sure how this appears to me. I may identify as non-binary and gender nonconforming for the entirety of my life at some point in the future, she said.
For me, at this precise moment, this is how I identify. Perhaps as I get older, I will come to identify as a woman; I’m not sure what that looks like.
The singer of “Skyscraper” said, “I’ve actually adopted the pronouns of’she/her’ again,” during an appearance on the Sprout Podcast.
“My energy, particularly last year, was balanced between my male and feminine energies, allowing me to enter a washroom where the signs read “women” and “men.”
“Since I didn’t feel particularly feminine, I didn’t feel like there was a restroom for me. I didn’t feel manly at all. All I felt was human.”
In addition, Lovato said she has been “feeling more feminine.””
“However, I believe that what matters is that nobody is flawless,” she said in closing. Pronoun errors happen to everyone occasionally, especially to those who are just learning. It all comes down to respect.
My Daughter Said I Could Only Come to Her Graduation If I ‘Dressed Normal’ Because She Was Ashamed of Me
Carmen spent 22 years cleaning houses to put her daughter through college. But when graduation nears, Lena delivers a gutting ultimatum: come, but don’t look like yourself. Carmen’s pride turns to heartbreak — until she makes a bold choice that no one sees coming.
My fingers throbbed as I unlocked my front door. The scent of ammonia clung to my skin like a second uniform, my sturdy sneakers dragging across the floor. Another day without a proper break.
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I’d spent 13 hours on my feet.
The bathrooms at the Westfield Hotel don’t clean themselves, and Mr. Davidson had asked me to stay late again. Three more rooms needed deep cleaning before the conference guests arrived tomorrow.
How could I say no? The overtime would help pay for Lena’s cap and gown when she graduated with her degree in business management.
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My back ached as I shuffled toward the kitchen, but my eyes caught on the envelope taped to the fridge: Lena’s graduation ceremony program.
My chest warmed. Pride swelled through the exhaustion. My daughter — the first in our family to go to college.
All those years scrubbing grout and sacrificing sleep were worth it.
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I whispered to myself, voice husky from fatigue, “I just want to see my girl walk that stage.”
Four years of scrimping and saving, of coming home with raw hands and a sore back.
Four years of Lena growing distant, making new friends, and learning new words that I sometimes struggled to understand.
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The microwave clock read 10:37 p.m. We still had to finalize the details about the ceremony; whether I’d have a reserved seat, what time I should arrive, etc.
But it was too late to call Lena now. She’d be studying for finals or out with those friends she mentioned — the ones I had never met.
Tomorrow, I promised myself. Tomorrow I would call about the ceremony.
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On a rattling bus ride home the next day, I dialed Lena’s number.
My work shirt was damp against my back. My name, Carmen, was stitched in pale blue thread, still visible in the setting sun through the bus window.
“Hola, mija,” I said when Lena answered, the familiar voice of my daughter sending a wave of joy through my tired body.
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“Mom, hi. I’m kind of in the middle of something.”
“Just quick, I promise. About graduation next week… I could take the morning off, but I need to know if my seat will be reserved or if I need to get there early. I want a good seat to look at my girl.” I smiled softly, imagining the moment.
There was a pause, one that felt a little too long, and a little too heavy.
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“Mom… you can come. Yeah. Uh, the seats aren’t reserved. Just… please promise you won’t wear anything weird.”
I stilled. My smile faded. “Weird? What would I wear that’s weird?”
“I just mean…” her voice dropped to a volume just above a whisper, “you know, not your usual stuff. This is a classy event. Everyone’s parents are, like, lawyers and doctors. Just dress… normal. No uniform. I don’t want people to know what you do.”
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The bus hit a pothole, jostling me forward. I gripped the phone tighter.
I didn’t reply. Lena’s words landed like bleach on a fresh cut — sharp and burning. The way she said it, like I was some embarrassing secret she needed to cover up, hurt more than anything else ever could.
“I just want this day to be perfect,” Lena continued. “It’s important. Maybe the most important day of my life, Mom.”
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“I know it’s important,” I managed. “Four years I’ve worked for this day.”
“That’s not what I mean. Look, I’ve got to go. My study group is waiting.”
After Lena hung up, I sat motionless as the bus rumbled on. An old woman across the aisle gave me a sympathetic look. I wondered if my humiliation was that obvious.
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That night, I stood in front of my small closet.
I’d decided to wear my best church dress to the graduation weeks ago, a simple but stylish yellow knee-length with white trim. Maybe I should’ve told Lena that on the phone, but would it have changed anything?
I ran my fingers over the dress’s pleated skirt.
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I’d worn this same dress to Lena’s high school graduation and had felt beautiful and proud that day. Now it looked garish in the dim light of my bedroom.
My gaze shifted to my work uniforms, three identical sets hanging neatly pressed. I had washed one that very morning.
It wasn’t fancy. It wasn’t impressive. But it was honest.
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I shook my head as a wave of anger washed over me. It seemed impossible that a daughter I was so proud of could also be so disappointing.
“College might teach you fancy words, but I guess it doesn’t make you smart,” I muttered.
I then took out a notepad and began to write. When I finished, I folded the pages carefully and slipped it into an envelope.
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I arrived at the graduation ceremony early and found a seat. Rows of proud families filled in around me: perfumed women in designer outfits with real pearl necklaces, suited men with brand-name watches and silk ties.
I’d decided against wearing my church dress, after all. Instead, I sat straight-backed in my uniform.
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It was clean and neatly pressed, the blue fabric faded from hundreds of washings. I had polished my sensible work shoes until they gleamed.
I stuck out in the crowd, and I knew it.
The ceremony began with pomp and circumstance. Speeches about bright futures and limitless potential.
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I understood enough to know most of these graduates had grown up in a world without any real limitations. The pearl necklaces and expensive watches around me said it all.
And then Lena walked onto the stage, her cap bobbing among the sea of black. Her face scanned the crowd.
I knew when she spotted me because her eyes widened in horror.
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There was no wave. Just a tight smile. Controlled. Calculated.
I clapped anyway as she received her diploma, the kind of clap that said: You’re still my little girl, no matter what.
And I hoped she understood that even though she seemed to have gotten caught up in a world where her mother’s honest work was an embarrassment.
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After the ceremony, families swarmed the lawn. Cameras flashed. Laughter rang out across the green space.
I stood apart, watching as Lena posed with friends, her smile wide and genuine.
When Lena finally approached, I saw my daughter’s eyes dart nervously to my uniform, then back to my face.
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“Mom…” Lena said, her voice low. “I asked you not to wear that! I told you—”
I didn’t say a word. I just handed over the gift bag I’d brought with me.
“What’s this?” Lena asked, peering inside. She pulled out an envelope and removed a thin stack of papers.
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On the day I’d spoken to Lena, I’d written a list detailing every extra shift I took over the years to provide for her school clothes, college tuition, textbooks, and everything else she needed.
It detailed every house and hotel I’d worked in, every weekend I’d worked overtime, every penny I’d pinched along the way.
And right at the bottom, I’d written a simple message: “You wanted me invisible, but this is what built your future.”
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I left while she was still reading. I had a bus to catch. Another shift tomorrow.
A week passed. I worked extra hours to push away the memory of graduation day. My supervisor noticed my distraction.
“Everything okay, Carmen?” he asked as I restocked my cleaning cart.
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“My daughter graduated college,” I said, trying to inject pride into my voice.
“That’s wonderful! You must be so proud.”
I nodded, not trusting myself to speak.
That evening, there was a knock at my door. I wiped my hands on a dish towel and went to answer it.
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Lena stood there, eyes puffy. She held her cap and gown bundled in her arms.
“Can I come in?” she asked, her voice small.
I stepped back, allowing my daughter to enter the apartment that had once been our shared home.
“I read your note,” Lena said after a moment of silence. “I’ve read it about 20 times.”
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I didn’t speak. I just nodded.
“I didn’t know,” Lena continued. “About the extra shifts, how you worked holidays, the night cleaning jobs… or, rather, I knew, but I never fully realized how much you sacrificed for me.”
“You weren’t supposed to know,” I said finally. “That was the point.”
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Lena’s eyes filled with tears. “I’m so ashamed. Not of you — of me.”
She reached into her bag and pulled out a frame. “Can we take a photo? Just us? I didn’t get any pictures with you at graduation.”
I didn’t speak. I just nodded.
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We stood together in my small living room: Lena in her gown, me in my uniform. The neighbor from across the hall took the photo with Lena’s fancy phone.
“I have a job interview next week,” Lena said later as we sat at my kitchen table. “It’s a good company, and the job offer includes benefits.”
“That’s good,” I said. “Your degree is working already.”
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“Mom.” Lena reached across and took my hand. Her fingers traced the calluses and chemical burns I’d accumulated over the years. “Your hands built my future. I’ll never forget that again.”
The photo now hangs in our hallway.
Because love doesn’t always look like pearls and pressed suits. Sometimes, it looks like bleach-stained sneakers and a mother who never gave up.
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