For someone who was called “fatso” and had no intention of becoming a famous Hollywood star, this actress has certainly made a name for herself. After her breakout role, she garnered so much attention that she earned a special accolade.
This actress once revealed that her mother never wanted a daughter, and she grew up sheltered because of her strict father. Despite being bullied and called ugly, she eventually found peace and married the love of her life.
What was Her Childhood like?
In her memoir, “This Is Just My Face: Try Not To Stare,” the actress wrote about her childhood and mother, who she confirmed during an interview in 2017 still sang in subways.
The actress’ mother had been a teacher at her school until the fourth grade. Originally from the southern state of Georgia, her mom then took a sabbatical and started singing in the subway.
Her mother realized she could make more money performing than working for the Board of Education and decided to stick with it. The celebrity recalled her mother taking her and her brother to the subway, where she would sing for around five hours.
The actress remembered sitting on a bench within eyesight or earshot, doing her homework or reading books. Her mother performed at New York City’s Penn Station while she wandered around the station or visited a nearby bookstore.
At the bookstore, she was allowed to pull books off the shelves and read without paying. She suspected they permitted this because they knew her mother. Every now and then, she’d ask her mother for money to buy a new “Clue” book or the latest “Nancy Drew.”
Her mother always gave her the money, encouraging her to focus on reading. On the other hand, her father was very strict. He was from Senegal, studied architecture in France, and later became a cab driver when he moved to New York.
The actress shared that both her parents spanked her growing up, but she rejected labeling it as abuse, even when directly challenged. She emphasized that people often interpret others’ experiences through their own lens.
For her, spanking was a culturally rooted form of discipline common in communities of color, not an act of cruelty. She explained that her father’s upbringing in Africa, where safety and community were stable, shaped his beliefs about discipline.
After moving to Bed-Stuy, Brooklyn—a much more dangerous environment—he felt strong discipline was necessary to protect his children. Although it took years for father and daughter to fully understand each other, she never considered him abusive, especially seeing how relaxed he became with his younger children later.
She recalled a tender memory of her father carefully granting her small bits of independence, such as letting her fetch the mail while he watched closely from the doorway.
He would warn her against using the staircase, fearing for her safety, and waited to hear her shout from the elevator when she entered it out of his view. Ironically, her brother, who was only 11 months older, had far more independence. Unfortunately, part of her childhood also involved bullying.
Life’s Harsh Realities
When she turned six, the actress, who was raised in Harlem, started noticing what other children said about her. She spoke about the bullying she endured at that age regarding her weight, “You know, it’s, like, that weird thing where, like, I realize this thing about myself – I’m not magic, so now I have to pick you apart. And I have to pick myself apart.”
The star added, “And I think that was the age where people started calling me Fatso and you-this and you-that, blah, blah blah. That’s what helped me to notice.” In her book, she wrote about praying in the fourth grade for God to make her less sensitive because of how badly she was mocked.
At that time, her parents’ marriage was crumbling; they separated when she was 12, leaving her feeling “unhinged.” She recalled crying for hours and experiencing tightness in her chest when someone said something hurtful.
Panic attacks made breathing difficult, and she sometimes felt like she might die. Noticing that she could cry for up to three hours during school, she began praying about her sensitivity, unaware she was dealing with a medical condition.
The actress battled depression and anxiety unnoticed throughout elementary and junior high school. The issues persisted into high school, with the panic attacks intensifying during her commute to school.
After transferring schools, her struggles worsened, and she realized her issues were not just about being bullied for her weight. She eventually sought medical help and spoke about her struggles.
The actress on “Saturday Night Live” on April 24, 2010 | Source: Getty Images
Another painful memory was the rejection she felt from her mother. She recalled, “My mom always told me that she never wanted to have a daughter.” The star acknowledged how harsh that sounded but explained it prepared her for understanding that “being a Black woman was not going to be easy. That’s what my mom told me.”
Her mother believed having a daughter was hard because girls lead difficult lives. The actress said, “Those were the first lessons I got about being a Black woman. Today, as an adult, I would really like to erase that narrative from my life.” Despite these challenges, stardom found her.
The star on “Saturday Night Live” | Source: Getty Images
Becoming an Actress and Getting Hate
By 2010, the actress had become a well-known celebrity, staying in luxurious hotel suites for interviews. That year, she was based in the UK for the London Film Festival. She confessed that she hadn’t planned for the life she now had.
Just two years earlier, at 24, she was working as a receptionist to support her psychology studies in college when she auditioned for a film on a whim. She had just enrolled for her third year when she auditioned. Her resume listed only three minor college theater roles, yet she secured the lead role in “Precious.”
Andy Samberg and his co-star on “Saturday Night Live” | Source: Getty Images
She canceled her classes to star in the film, which became a breakout hit at Sundance in early 2009. The movie received three Golden Globe nominations, including Best Actress for Gabourey Sidibe, along with an Academy Award nomination.
After her nomination, a famous radio host went on air, claiming it was an anomaly. He alleged that Sidibe’s Hollywood peers were only “pretending” she was one of them and said she would never act again because of her weight.
Kristen Wiig and Gabourey Sidibe on “Saturday Night Live” | Source: Getty Images
The star shared that she had never dreamed of becoming an actress and felt overwhelmed by the film’s success. She explained that she has a neutral accent, stating, “I don’t have what we call the blackccent.”
However, despite no formal acting training, she recognized that her character would have an accent, so she deepened her voice to fit the role. Part of her Hollywood success came from her hustle and hard work.
Gabourey Sidibe at the “Our Idiot Brother” screening in New York on August 22, 2011 | Source: Getty Images
Despite two psychics predicting fame for her, Sidibe never believed she would gain the same recognition as her Hollywood idols. Today, she excels both in front of and behind the camera, although her journey also included a significant decision regarding her health.
Gabourey Sidibe at the “Win Win” screening party in New York on March 16, 2011 | Source: Getty Images
Going Under the Knife
In May 2016, after enduring bullying and struggling with weight loss, Sidibe underwent laparoscopic bariatric surgery. She made the decision after she and her brother were diagnosed with Type 2 diabetes.
The actress did the procedure because she didn’t want to worry about the effects that come with having diabetes. She explained, “I genuinely [would] worry all the time about losing my toes.”
Gabourey Sidibe at the 13th premiere and after party of the New York Film Festival Opening Night Gala on September 30, 2016 | Source: Getty Images
Sidibe expressed frustration that people assumed they cared more about her health than she did. “But I care more than anybody really knows. Of course I care. It’s been my body my whole life, and I didn’t want to be afraid anymore. And I’ve been feeling like that for some time,” she said.
Even after surgery, she continued to obsess over her body, eating habits, and weight. However, she learned to trust herself and embraced the mantra “faith over fear,” understanding that her decisions were personal.
Gabourey Sidibe at the 27th Annual Beat the Odds ceremony in Los Angeles on December 7, 2017 | Source: Getty Images
Initially, she weighed herself five or six times daily, tracking natural fluctuations. Eventually, she stopped that behavior and now weighs herself every two weeks or whenever she feels the need.
For the first 17 days post-surgery, Sidibe consumed only liquids and became depressed. However, by 2017, she was following meal plans, eating five times a day, cooking, consulting her nutritionist, and using apps to log her meals.
Gabourey Sidibe at the NAACP Image Awards in Los Angeles on February 11, 2017 | Source: Getty Images
She also became more active, using her Apple Watch to track her movements. The actress had tricycles both at her Los Angeles home and on set in Chicago, riding them during lunch breaks.
She revealed that she felt stronger, more mobile, and no longer feared losing her toes. After her breakout role in “Precious,” she was featured in People magazine’s World’s Most Beautiful issue, an honor she called “really dope!”
Gabourey Sidibe at the Variety Cannes Lions Studio at the Cannes Lions Festival in France on June 21, 2017 | Source: Getty Images
Still, Sidibe acknowledged that she likely would not have been included if she weren’t an actress. She pointed out that such lists typically feature celebrities, not regular people.
While she believes she’s beautiful—crediting her parents for her features—she often doubts whether others genuinely see her that way. “Other than my very obvious beautiful [expletive] features, like my cheekbones, my skin-tone? Get out of here. Gorgeous!” she said, affirming her self-worth with humor.
The actress admitted that she spent much of her life hearing she was ugly, both from outsiders and within her own community. Even after being named one of the Most Beautiful at 26, internalizing that recognition was difficult.
Decades of negative conditioning weren’t easily undone, even by career success. Though she now believes in her own beauty, she remains skeptical of outside praise.
“Yeah, I’m beautiful, but I’m not convinced that you’re convinced of that,” she said. Sidibe described her beauty as something deeply personal: “My beauty is like my own secret in this way.” She explained that maintaining confidence is a daily practice, not a permanent achievement.
Confidence, for her, is like applying lipstick—it needs daily renewal. High heels, a good hairstyle, intelligence, friends, and humor all contribute to her sense of self-worth. For Sidibe, confidence isn’t automatic; it’s something she cultivates consciously. Despite her size, she enjoys photo shoots and embraces her body.
Accepting Herself and Fighting for Others
Sidibe once said about photo shoots, “I feel like a model. It justifies everyone in my life who told me I wouldn’t be anything until I lost weight.” It also justified the little girl who cried, thinking she didn’t belong in front of a camera.
However, reaching that confidence took time, only happening around age 21. She recalled becoming tired of letting others define her worth. Lee Daniels, the director of “Precious,” had high praise for her.
He said, “[Gabby] may be in a state of denial or on a higher plane than the rest of us, but either way, she breaks your heart in the movie.” Responding to his comment, she stated, “I was like, ‘What the hell? I’m in denial?’ No, I know what I look like. I’m very much aware.”
When asked where her confidence came from, she explained, “It came from me.” She added, “One day I decided that I was beautiful, and so I carried out my life as if I was a beautiful girl.”
Sidibe said what helps her is wearing the colors she loves and the makeup that makes her feel pretty. Advising others struggling with self-image, she said, “It doesn’t have anything to do with how the world perceives you. What matters is what you see. Your body is your temple, it’s your home, and you must decorate it.”
In 2021, she partnered with the Child Mind Institute and its May Mental Health Awareness campaign. Her own struggles with depression inspired her to work alongside the nonprofit organization to launch Getting Better Together.
The star revealed that she was 19 or 20 when she was diagnosed with anxiety, depression, and an eating disorder. In a video, the actress shared, “I remember having almost no one, really, to turn to. I couldn’t talk about it with my parents, or my friends or my friend’s parents. Everyone would tell me I was too young, too young to feel sad all the time or too young to feel stressed out.”
She explained how people around her tried to convince her that she wasn’t feeling what she felt. Fortunately, her instincts, which told her something was wrong, were louder, and she managed to save herself.
However, she recognized that not everyone had the ability to do the same or even to recognize that they needed help. That realization inspired her to start the Getting Better Together initiative. She urged, “If you or a young person you know is struggling, please go to ChildMind.org for resources and help.” Since then, she’s gotten married and welcomed children.
Celebrating Love and Growth
Gabourey Sidibe has since married Brandon Frankel, and together they share two children. In April 2025, the couple uploaded various images of their twins, Cooper and Maya, as they celebrated their first birthday.
The proud parents reflected on a full year filled with love and laughter. They described the twins as hilarious, sweet, and remarkably well-behaved. From walking and talking to dancing, hugging, and even demanding songs or calling every animal “CAT!”, the little ones have blossomed into vibrant mini humans.
Their parents expressed feeling honored to watch them grow and excited for all the learning and discovery ahead.
“We LOVE being your parents—the best is yet to come!” they wrote in a heartfelt celebration of the milestone.
The month before, the couple celebrated their wedding anniversary with help from Brides magazine.
For their fourth anniversary, they graced the magazine’s cover in 2022, and the publication honored them by inviting readers to revisit their love story through a special link in their bio.
Rich Man Sees His Former School Teacher as a Homeless Man – ‘I’m Here Because of Your Mother,’ Says Teacher
I was on my way to close another deal when a familiar face stopped me in my tracks. It was a man I never expected to see again, especially not like this. What he told me next changed everything I thought I knew about my past.
The wind whipped through the bustling city street, sending shivers down my spine despite the expensive coat I wore. I was focused on the upcoming business meeting, my mind running through figures and projections, when something—or rather, someone—caught my eye.
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A figure slumped against the side of a building, covered in a tattered coat. At first, I tried to look away, but something about him seemed familiar.
Then it hit me.
“Mr. Williams?” I stopped, disbelief coating my words. “Mr. Williams, is that really you?”
The man lifted his head slowly, and my heart sank. It was him, no doubt about it. His once bright eyes, now dull and tired, met mine, and I could see the recognition flicker in them.
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“Arthur,” he rasped, his voice rough from the cold or maybe from something deeper, something more painful.
“My dear Arthur… I’m so ashamed that you are seeing me like this.”
“Mr. Williams,” I repeated, stepping closer. I couldn’t tear my gaze away from the man who had once been my rock.
“What happened? How did you… end up like this?”
He gave a bitter chuckle, the sound harsh and dry.
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“Life has a way of throwing curveballs, doesn’t it?” He looked down, pulling the ragged coat tighter around his frail body.
“But you, Arthur… you’ve done well for yourself. Just like your parents.”
“You taught me everything,” I blurted out, a mix of admiration and sadness swelling in my chest.
“I wouldn’t be where I am today if it weren’t for you. You were more than just a teacher to me. You were… you were like a father.”
He looked up at me then, his eyes softening. “I did what I could, Arthur. But your success… that’s your own doing.”
A succesful business man talking to a homeless man on the streets | Source: Midjourney
“No,” I insisted, shaking my head.
“You don’t understand. It wasn’t my mother or the money. It was you. You taught me discipline, how to think critically, how to never give up.”
Mr. Williams sighed deeply, his breath visible in the cold air. “You give me too much credit, Arthur.”
I crouched down beside him, desperation creeping into my voice. “Please, Mr. Williams, let me help you. This isn’t right. You don’t deserve this.”
He hesitated, the silence between us stretching out uncomfortably. Finally, he spoke, his voice tinged with sorrow.
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“Arthur, I’m here because of your mother.”
I froze, the words hanging in the air like a bad dream.
“What do you mean? My mother? What does she have to do with this?”
He nodded slowly, his eyes filled with a sadness I’d never seen before.
“Your mother… she had a way of getting what she wanted. And when she didn’t get it…”
“What happened?” I asked, the urgency in my voice clear. “Please, Mr. Williams, tell me.”
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He looked away, his hands trembling slightly as he clutched the edges of his coat.
“It all started when I gave you a lower grade on an exam. You remember? It wasn’t to punish you, but to push you, to make you reach your potential.”
“I remember,” I said quietly. “You always said I could do better.”
“I believed in you, Arthur. But your mother… she didn’t see it that way.” He paused, collecting his thoughts.
“She came to see me and demanded that I change your grade. I refused. I told her it wasn’t about grades, but about the lessons you’d learn from failure.”
A homeless elderly man | Source: Midjourney
I could feel my heart racing, dread pooling in my stomach. “And then?”
“She wasn’t happy,” Mr. Williams continued, his voice heavy with regret. “She threatened to ruin me if I didn’t comply. But I stood my ground.”
I clenched my fists, anger simmering beneath the surface. “I can’t believe this… I had no idea.”
“She came back a few days later, acting like she wanted to make amends,” he said, a bitter smile playing on his lips.
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“Invited me to a café, said she wanted to understand my perspective. I thought… maybe we could work something out.”
I could see where this was going, but I needed to hear it. “And?”
“When I got there, she wasn’t alone,” he said, his voice breaking slightly.
“The school principal was with her. She accused me of improper conduct, said I’d demanded the meeting to secure your grades. The principal believed her—after all, she was on the school board.”
People having a meeting in a restaurant | Source: Midjourney
The pieces started falling into place, and I felt sick to my stomach. “They fired you.”
“Not just fired,” he corrected, his eyes darkening.
“I was blacklisted. No school would touch me. And then… I got sick. Spent everything I had on treatment, and… well, here I am.”
I stared at him, the weight of his words pressing down on me like a ton of bricks.
“Mr. Williams… I’m so sorry. I had no idea.”
“It wasn’t your fault, Arthur,” he said gently, placing a hand on my shoulder. “But now you know the truth.”
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I swallowed hard, my mind racing. “Let me help you. I can’t just walk away from this. You’re the reason I am who I am. Let me do something—anything—to make it right.”
As we walked toward my car, Mr. Williams leaned on me for support. Each step seemed to take a toll on him, and I couldn’t help but wonder how much more this man had suffered. But I knew one thing for sure—I wasn’t going to let him walk away from this, not again.
“Arthur,” he began, his voice hesitant, “you don’t have to do this. I’ve managed this far… barely, but I’ve managed. I don’t want to be a burden.”
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“Burden?” I stopped and looked at him, incredulous.
“Mr. Williams, you were never a burden. You gave me everything I needed to succeed. The least I can do is offer you a little help in return. Besides, I’ve been thinking… I could really use someone like you.”
He raised an eyebrow, clearly puzzled. “What do you mean?”
“Well,” I said, choosing my words carefully, “I’ve got two kids of my own now, Mr. Williams. They’re smart, but they need someone who can push them, someone who won’t just give them the easy answers. Someone like you.”
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His expression shifted from confusion to something I hadn’t seen in his eyes for a long time—hope. “Arthur… are you asking me to…?”
“Yes,” I nodded, unable to contain my excitement.
“I want you to come work for me as a private tutor for my children. I trust you with their education more than anyone else. They need someone who will teach them not just how to solve equations, but how to think, how to be disciplined,just like you did with me.”
For a moment, he was silent, his eyes glistening with unspoken emotions.
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“Arthur,” he said, his voice barely above a whisper, “I don’t know what to say. After everything that’s happened… I didn’t think I’d ever teach again. I thought that part of my life was over.”
I squeezed his shoulder, trying to convey just how much this meant to me.
“It’s not over, Mr. Williams. You’ve got so much left to give. And my kids… they’re going to be lucky to have you. Just think of it as a new beginning.”
He blinked back tears, his voice trembling as he spoke. “I don’t deserve this, Arthur. Not after all the mistakes I’ve made.”
An emotional elderly man | Source: Midjourney
“Mistakes?” I shook my head. “The only mistake was letting someone like you fall through the cracks. You didn’t fail me, Mr. Williams. You saved me. And now, I want to help you do the same for my children.”
He looked at me with a mixture of gratitude and disbelief. “I don’t know how I can ever repay you.”
“You’ve already repaid me a thousand times over,” I said softly, guiding him toward the car.
“Just come home with me. Let’s get you settled in, and we’ll figure everything else out from there.”
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As we drove through the city, the silence between us was comfortable, filled with unspoken understanding. Finally, as we pulled up to my house, Mr. Williams turned to me, his voice filled with resolve.
“Arthur,” he said, with a strength I hadn’t heard in years, “I won’t let you down. I’ll give your children everything I gave you, and more. They’ll grow up to be just as strong, just as capable as you are.”
I smiled, feeling a warmth in my chest that I hadn’t felt in a long time.
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“I know you will, Mr. Williams. And this time, no one’s going to take that away from you.”
He nodded, and as we stepped out of the car, he paused, looking up at the house—a symbol of the life he once had, and the new one he was about to begin. He turned to me, his eyes shining with determination.
“Let’s get to work,” he said, a small smile tugging at the corners of his mouth.
A young man and an elderly man looking at a beautiful house | Source: Midjourney
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