Life is everchanging. It seems to become more chaotic the older we get and the more industrialized we as a society become. So, going into stores or malls isn’t as feasible as it once was. Consequently, online shopping has become more common, and in many cases, is the new normal.
Although online shopping is much more convenient, there are some downsides including the possibility of not getting exactly what you thought you were buying. Additionally, more intense downsides exist, such as safety concerns. To combat some of these concerns and ensure safety, Pembroke, Ontario, a small city in Canada, is using a handshake symbol as a new solution to ensure safety. Their idea, while unconventional, could prove to ensure the safety of thousands of shoppers. If proven successful, Pembroke may transform the way people undertake online shopping.
Handshake Symbols Represent Safety
A handshake symbol is showing up in parking spaces all over the city. Pembroke’s police department, Pembroke OPP, gave a statement regarding the new handshake symbol parking spots. “The purpose of Project Safe Trade is to create a ‘community safety zone’ at an OPP detachment parking lot to facilitate online property transactions,” the OPP said in the news release. “Creating a ‘community safety zone’ is about moving online transactions away from secluded parking lots, personal residences or other areas and bringing them to a public place.”
Parameters of the Project
Amazingly, the handshake symbol spots, called “safe trade spots,” will be available 24 hours a day and will not require appointments. The way these spots work is simple. If you’ve purchased something online but have to pick it up, or pay, in person, the handshake symbol spots become a neutral meeting point. It’s important to note these spots will not be monitored 24 hours a day. This means there will be no police intervention, such as mediation or witnessing a transaction. In contrast, they will have available officers on the scene if a call or complaint is made to the city regarding a criminal matter. The area will be well-lit and conveniently located just off the highway.
Holiday Shopping
With the holidays upon us, things become even more hectic, and people often stop looking into all the transaction details. The handshake symbol spots have been developed in tandem with the holidays. Steph Neufeld, the safety unit’s captain, says, “The local launch of Project Safe Trade comes at an ideal time with the busy holiday season upon us. Online property transactions are ever-increasing and the UOV OPP is proud to be launching a community safety initiative aimed at decreasing offences related to online marketplace transactions,” He continues in the statement, “Collaborative approaches like Project Safe Trade can help to reduce harm and victimization in our communities.”
Going Beyond the Handshake Symbol
The handshake symbol parking lots are a great start, but there is more the city has incorporated into the project. In particular, one Canadian resident and professional. Carmi Levy, a technology analyst, offers helpful hints. While seemingly obvious, they can be forgotten during an overwhelming time like the holidays.
Levy said, “Do your due diligence on the person that claims to be selling it. Look into their background, see what other things they’ve sold, look for information on how other buyers have dealt with them in the past.” Also suggesting people, “Insist on seeing the actual device that you’re buying before you hand over any money. Insist that they power it on. Insist that you make sure it works before you pay for it.” This is a great way to avoid being scammed and wasting your hard-earned money on something that just isn’t worth it.
Other Safety Suggestions
Other recommendations include going with someone you know and trust when engaging in online transactions. Save all interactions between buyer and seller, this includes voicemails, emails, or text messages. Additionally, shopping apps like ‘OfferUp’ and ‘LetGo’ tell you they won’t reach out for personal information. They suggest you use caution when doling out personal information with limited or only necessary information.
Furthermore, they suggest that you have those conversations strictly in the app. This ensures the conversation is logged in a secure environment so you can avoid giving your personal information to a stranger. For Canadian residents, specific to the Pembroke area, seeking handshake symbol parking lots can keep citizens safe this holiday season. Moreover, they can help bring higher levels of safety in years to come.
Not everyone will understand.
Trust is the foundation of any healthy relationship. However, when things start to feel off, it’s easy for doubts to take over. Recently, I found myself questioning my girlfriend’s behavior, and it all centered around her work schedule.
She works at a bank, which typically closes at 4:30 PM. However, she’s been coming home around 9:30 PM every night. At first, I didn’t think much of it—maybe she had extra work. But as days passed, the uneasiness grew. Was she really staying late for work, or was there something more?
I couldn’t shake off the feeling that something wasn’t right. Could she be lying? Was she seeing someone else? These thoughts kept running through my mind, making me question everything.
Jumping to Conclusions vs. Seeking the Truth
It’s human nature to assume the worst when things don’t add up. I had two choices:
- Let paranoia consume me and start making accusations.
- Communicate and seek clarity before making assumptions.
I chose the second option. Instead of letting suspicion take over, I decided to analyze the situation logically.
Understanding the Nature of Banking Jobs
One of the first things I did was research bank work schedules. Most banks do close by 4:30 PM, but that doesn’t mean employees leave at that time.
🕒 Here’s why bank employees might stay late:
✔️ Processing daily transactions and balancing accounts.
✔️ Preparing reports for the next business day.
✔️ Handling security checks and audits.
✔️ Attending meetings and training sessions.
It turns out, overtime in the banking sector isn’t uncommon, especially for those in higher positions or involved in finance management.
Could this be why my girlfriend was getting home late? It was a strong possibility.
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The Importance of Communication
Instead of silently harboring doubts, I did what any rational partner should do—I talked to her.
🔹 I casually asked, “How was work today?”
🔹 I listened carefully to what she said.
🔹 I paid attention to her body language.
Turns out, she had been staying late to complete extra tasks and wasn’t intentionally hiding anything from me. It was just work—nothing more, nothing less.
That conversation saved me from unnecessary stress, doubt, and potential damage to our relationship.
Trust in a Relationship: A Two-Way Street
Many relationships fail not because of actual betrayal, but due to lack of trust and communication. My situation made me realize that:
❤️ Jumping to conclusions can ruin a good relationship.
❤️ Communication is the only way to resolve doubts.
❤️ Trust is built over time, and small doubts can weaken it.
Imagine if I had accused her of lying without any proof. It could have caused unnecessary fights and resentment.
What I Learned from This Experience
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🔸 Doubts are normal, but how you handle them matters.
🔸 Being insecure and jumping to conclusions only leads to regret.
🔸 Giving your partner the benefit of the doubt strengthens the relationship.
Instead of letting anxiety and overthinking control me, I chose understanding and trust. And guess what? I was wrong to assume the worst.
Final Thoughts: Not Everyone Will Understand
Some people may think, “If you’re doubting her, maybe there’s a reason.” But the truth is, sometimes our own insecurities create problems that don’t exist.
If something in your relationship feels off, don’t jump to accusations—instead, talk about it.
At the end of the day, trust and communication are the real secrets to a strong relationship. Without them, even the best relationships can fall apart.
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