I take it that everyone of us must navigate our own lives and take responsibility for our decisions? However, it is in our nature as humans to want to help friends who are actually in need. However, what would you do if your friend—the one you always stand by—started confiding in you about all of their issues, repeatedly, and with no sign of stopping? This Reddit member is exactly in that predicament. She wondered if she was managing the matter with her buddy correctly, so she looked to the large internet community for advice.
I(32F) am a single mother of two kids (6M and 5m F). I am a single mother by choice (my kids are donor conceived).
I am lucky enough to have a good job (French teacher in a private school), and a paid off house (parents’ life insurance and inheritance).
Before I had either of my kids, I made sure to have a year’s living expenses saved, then I would take a sabbatical to recover from birth, as well as bond with my kids. While on sabbatical, I still tutor some kids for some extra income.
My friend (34F), just had a baby 2 months ago. She is the breadwinner in her household, and her husband has been unemployed since he was laid off during COVID.
It was great to be pregnant at the same time, as well as having a friend with a newborn. But it has turned sour.
She has been saying how jealous she is of me being able to take off a whole year from work, how she would have loved to not worry about losing their home, how she doesn’t even have a couple hundred dollars in her savings account, let alone a whole year’s worth of living expenses….
I usually ignore it, or brush it off, because I kind of can understand the stress she is under.
Well, starting about 10 days ago, she started hinting at not being able to afford daycare, and any mention of her husband taking care of their kid is brushed off. Then she started remarking on how much free time I must have, which I deflected by saying -truthfully- that being a single mom to a baby and a small kid left me no free time actually.
Then last night she came out with it, and asked if I could “do her a favor” and watch her kid while she’s at work. I was firm, but polite, when I said that I couldn’t, that I am not capable of watching two kids under 6 months.
She started almost begging me, saying she can’t afford daycare, and if she is not back at work, she will lose her job, and they will end up homeless. I again brought up her husband, and she said that he was not good with kids, and isn’t capable of taking care of her kid.
I kept saying no, she kept pushing, until it escalated to her calling me heartless, and me telling her that it’s not my problem she chose to have a kid with a useless man.
Now she blocked me, I am feeling very guilty about what I said, and feeling like an AH.
Why people cover mirrors at night
Observing Night Rituals: Closing Mirrors Change of pace: When the topic of covering mirrors at night came up one evening, I was genuinely interested despite my first skepticism.Transition of Superstitious and Cultural Roots: In many civilizations, mirrors are more than just reflective surfaces.Mirrors are associated with more than simply beauty in many cultures; they are thought to reflect souls, which is why covering one’s eyes as you sleep is thought to shield the soul.
This custom, which is particularly prevalent during grief, shows respect for the departed while keeping the grieving process’ internal dynamics front and center.Transitioning from Feng Shui to Energy Balancing: This ceremony is influenced not just by cultural beliefs but also by the concepts of Feng Shui.Mirrors are said to have substantial energy-doubling properties in Feng Shui teachings.Sleeping soundly at night is facilitated by keeping the bedroom peaceful and harmonious, which is achieved through covering them.
Realistic Aspects Transition: The practice is motivated by practical factors as well as spiritual and energy-related ones.Improving the quality of sleep and creating a more tranquil sleeping environment throughout the night can be achieved by minimizing light reflections and getting rid of unexpected reflections.Typical Procedure?Transition: Contrary to popular belief, concealing mirrors at night is more prevalent than not.
This technique is a popular nightly routine for many people because it speaks to the basic human desire for safety and calm sleep, regardless of cultural borders.Individual Story and Request to Try Transition: My study led me to make the decision to add this exercise to my evening routine.Although it seemed strange at first, covering mirrors became to be a soothing routine that gave one a feeling of protection and tranquility at night.Trying this routine may help you in unexpected ways as well, whether you do it for spiritual reasons or to enhance the quality of your sleep.
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