We all have different traditions when it comes to commemorating and paying tribute to our loved ones who have passed away.
In today’s world, honoring the customs of others while commemorating the lives of the departed ought to come as standard practice. Some may choose to follow traditions or practices that the rest of us are not familiar with, but it doesn’t make them any less legitimate.
The same is true with gravestones and the ornamentation certain families choose to place over their loved ones’ last resting places. Coins being placed on headstones is one custom that is widely practiced and that you have probably witnessed at some point. However, why is this even a thing? And from whence did it originate? Continue reading to learn more.
Coins are traditionally placed on gravestones in cemeteries around the United States and other countries. When I was a little child, I first observed it when I was at my grandfather’s tomb, and even then, I started to wonder what it was all about.
Luckily, finding the beginnings online doesn’t need much research. Although it was previously thought that the practice originated with Roman military troops, a number of sources have disproved that theory in recent years.
Still, there’s a military connection to leaving pennies on gravestones. The American Legion Website states on one of its pages that it can be linked to the Vietnam War.
“Leaving a coin was considered a more practical way to communicate that you had visited the soldier’s grave than contacting the soldier’s family, which could devolve into an uncomfortable argument over politics relating to the war, due to the political divide in the country over the war.”
There are other reasons why veterans leave pennies on gravestones in memory of their fallen friends; occasionally, they do so in order to purchase a beer for them. Each coin represents a different meaning, according to reports.
For instance, a nickel is left by someone who served in boot camp with the deceased, whereas a penny just indicates that someone was present.
On the other hand, a dime represents a combined period of military service. Next are quarters, which inform the family of the presence of whoever left the coin at the moment of the loved one’s passing.
Ever notice a penny left on a gravestone? Were you aware of its meaning? Tell us in the comments below.
My BIL Asked Me to Wear All White to His Gender Reveal Party – When I Found Out Why, I Was Speechless
What was meant to be an innocent gender reveal party turned into a messy event at the expense of us, the guests. Luckily, my future mother-in-law was a sensible woman who anticipated the drama. I was shocked and quite angry when I realized the truth about why there was a last-minute dress code.
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Hi everyone, my name is Tammy, 30, and I am engaged to Dean, 32. My tale is about a huge betrayal from my fiancé’s family’s side that led me to turn to revenge.
Okay, so my future brother-in-law (BIL), Sam, decided to throw a gender reveal party for his first child. Dean and I, his plus one were invited. But I guess there were red flags we should’ve picked up on about this event, but Dean and I brushed them off.
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Firstly, the invite to the gender reveal said the following:
“Every guest and their plus ones MUST EACH bring gifts to the party. Yours is Medium Diapers + a gift to the upcoming baby’s mom and dad.”
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I must admit that I was kind of shocked that the gift was not even for the baby! Unless diapers are seen as presents for babies these days! Another red flag was that the invite didn’t mention anything about a dress code.
Yet, a week before the event, we found out that EVERYONE must wear ALL WHITE. The last-minute information threw me off. But Dean was set because he had his father’s old white suit.
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However, I HATE white clothes with a passion! I vented to my fiancé about it, saying, “This sucks! Why didn’t Sam tell us earlier? Because I don’t do white clothes. They get dirty quickly, and I don’t find them flattering.”
“Sorry, my love, so what are you going to do?” Dean asked. “I’ll have to go out and buy a last-minute outfit, I don’t have a choice.”
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The week went by and as I stepped into Sam’s gender reveal party in a crisp white jumpsuit, the air felt charged. I wasn’t sure but it felt like it had an undercurrent of suspense. Everyone, draped in white, exchanged pleasantries, oblivious to the impending drama.
The unsuspecting guests and I were on the brink of a colorful disaster, and we had no idea!
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“Hey, did you manage to find something white to wear after all?” Dean whispered. His eyes scanned my outfit with a hint of amusement as we had arrived separately.
I chuckled, adjusting my jumpsuit. “Yes, but I swear if one drop of red wine gets on this, I’m retiring from all future themed parties.”
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As laughter and chatter filled the room, Sam and his girlfriend Berta floated from group to group. Their smiles were a bit too wide, their excitement palpable. “Everyone, gather around! We’re about to reveal something amazing!” Sam announced, his voice booming over the crowd’s buzz.
The guests huddled together, anticipation building. “This better be good, Sam,” I muttered under my breath, expecting some extravagant fireworks or a theatrical announcement.
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Suddenly, as Sam hit a remote, showers of pink and blue paint erupted from hidden nozzles, splattering everyone in sight! My mouth dropped open in disbelief and we all gasped as we figured out why he wanted us to wear white!
The vibrant stains seeped into the fabric of my once-perfect attire! Turns out he wanted us to wear the color to ruin everyone’s outfits for his and Berta’s amusement!
“What the—Sam! You could’ve warned us!” someone shouted from the back, his voice tinged with irritation.
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Dean, wiping blue paint off his glasses, looked bewildered. “Babe, did you know about this?”
“No! This is insane. My entire outfit is damaged for good!” I exclaimed, my initial amusement turning into frustration.
As the shock subsided, the crowd’s mood turned sour. The playful atmosphere was replaced by an air of annoyance. Guests examined their spoiled clothes with furrowed brows. But my BIL and Berta were in stitches, laughing at our collective expense.
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After the infamous paint fiasco, the atmosphere had definitively shifted! While it should have been a moment of fun, the result was anything but. Seeing everyone’s dismay, Sam’s mother, who had been skeptical about the party’s excessive demands, took charge.
Gathering everyone’s attention, she stepped forward with resolve. “Sam, Berta, it’s time for your joint gift,” she announced, presenting an envelope with a flourish. The couple, still basking in the aftermath of their stunt, eagerly took the envelope.
Although everyone was skeptical about getting presents for Sam and Berta, we’d collectively decided to get them a joint one.
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We got Sam’s mother, who was strangely dressed in black and gray, to book a vacation for the couple.
My BIL tore open the envelope, his face transitioning from joy to confusion as he pulled out a stack of gift cards. “What’s this?” he asked, his voice faltering.
“These aren’t for a vacation as initially planned,” his mother explained, her tone stern yet composed. “These are from all of us, to replace the clothes ruined today. It’s an apology, from you to everyone here.”
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It seems my future mother-in-law (MIL) had known about the gender reveal plans. Instead of getting the gift we’d all agreed on, she got something to compensate us instead. This was her way of rectifying the damage her son had caused.
Murmurs of agreement echoed around the room, the guests nodding in approval. “You need to understand, Sam, that actions have consequences,” his mother continued, her gaze unwavering.
“This isn’t just about ruined outfits—it’s about respect and consideration, something you both need to learn.”
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Sam looked around, his cheeks reddening with a mixture of embarrassment and realization. He seemed to absorb the weight of his mother’s words. Berta, by his side, appeared to shrink a little, her eyes widening as the reality of their misstep settled in.
The lesson was clear and the message resonant. Not only did the event address the immediate issue of damaged attire, but it also promised a lasting impact on the couple’s approach to relationships and responsibility.
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As Dean and I left the party, the stained fabric of my jumpsuit seemed less of a disaster. It was more of a testament to a moment of collective standing—turning a reckless celebration into a profound life lesson.
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Tammy’s tale demonstrates how inconsiderate people can be when choose to put their needs and wants above the wellbeing and feelings of others. In Barbara’s story, both her husband and MIL ignore how she feels, leading her to give the former an ultimatum.
I Threw a Surprise Birthday Party for My Mother-in-Law, but What She Did to Me Made Me Escape in Tears
Oh, Barbara! What a whirlwind of emotions! Your efforts to mend fences with Elaine, her MIL, despite the chilly vibes, truly showcase your dedication to Bill, her husband. It’s downright heartwarming how you pulled off a fabulous surprise party for her MIL.
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It came complete with jazz and gourmet treats, hoping to thaw the icy relations. Yet, the plot thickened with an unexpected twist that would give soap operas a run for their money!
The party’s surprise guest turned out to be none other than Kathy, Bill’s ex, who, thanks to Elaine’s cunning, reappeared with the timing of a dramatic season finale cliffhanger. Barbara’s MIL’s move, inviting Kathy under the guise of reconnecting family ties, was a classic “stir the pot” moment, leaving you in a tempest of confusion and hurt.
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Your pain was palpable when Bill, caught in the awkward position between familial loyalty and marital support, opted for a peace-keeping hug with Kathy, sending you over the edge. It’s tough, Barbara, really tough. The ride home alone, followed by the flood of tears, paints a vivid picture of your distress.
The ensuing confrontation with Bill highlights a significant rift, with you standing your ground, demanding the respect you deserve. Your ultimatum to your husband, insisting on an apology from Elaine or her absence, places you at a crossroads in your relationship, challenging the dynamics within your family structure.
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So, dear readers, what’s your take? Is Barbara the heroine of her own love story, fighting against the odds for her place in the family? Or is she in a losing battle against the shadows of Bill’s past? Dive into the discussion and let us know your thoughts on this saga of love, loyalty, and family feuds!
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