Only weeks after Millie Smith and Lewis Cann learned they were having twin baby girls, they learned that only one would survive.
On April 30, after 30 weeks of a high-risk pregnancy, Smith delivered identical twins, Callie and Skye, the latter who lived only three hours.
Later in neonatal intensive care unit (NICU), Callie slept without her sister in the incubator, with her loving and grieving parents watching over her. In the unit with other babies, an overwhelmed mom of healthy newborn twins innocently told Smith that she was “so lucky” to not have two babies.
Crushed by the words, the new mom couldn’t find the words to explain her loss. Then, she realized that Skye’s legacy was to help other families who lose a child, and it came in the form of a purple butterfly.
In November 2015 Millie Smith and partner Lewis Cann found out they were having their first Child. Smith, who has twins in the family, said she had a “gut feeling” about having a duo and 10 weeks later, doctors confirmed she was expecting identical twin girls.
Less than two weeks after the excitement of knowing they would double the children in their home, the British couple were devastated to learn that one of their babies had a fatal condition and wouldn’t survive after birth.
“During the scan, the doctor didn’t say anything. I was very excited and loved seeing the little babies, but she was silent. Both Lewis and I immediately knew there must be a problem,” Smith said.
Doctors shared the news that one of the babies had anencephaly, which according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) affects about one in 4,600 babies across the U.S. It’s a serious birth defect where a baby is born without parts of the brain and skull, and “almost all babies born with anencephaly will die shortly after birth.”
Knowing that one baby would die soon after birth, and that there were risks involved for their other baby, the couple decided to move forward with the extremely high-risk pregnancy.
Over the next several months, Smith and Cann named their twins Skye and Callie. “We knew that Skye needed to have a name before she was born,” Smith said. “Knowing she would only survive for seconds or minutes, I wanted her to be named during that time.”
The meaning behind “Skye,” she explained “was somewhere we knew she would always be, that we could look up at the sky and remember our baby.”
When Smith went into labor after only 30 weeks on April 30, she needed an emergency C-section. To help navigate the loss, the couple had a “bereavement midwife” during the birth, and they were put I a special room the called the “Daisy Room,” where families can spend time with a baby before and after she/he passes.
“When the girls were born, they both cried. This was a huge moment, as we were told that Skye would not make a noise or move,” said Smith, who was thankful to have three hours with Skye before she died. “We were cuddling Skye when she passed away. This was the worst moment in our lives. I have never ever felt heartbreak like that before. But I am proud that she fought for so long to spend time with us.”
Born premature, Callie had to stay in NICU while she gained some strength and also in the unit were three other sets of twin.
“Most of the nurses were aware of what had happened, but as time passed, people stopped talking about Skye. After about four weeks, everyone acted as though nothing had happened, meaning the families around me had no idea about our situation,” Smith recalled.
One morning, a stressed mother whose twins were also in NICU, harmlessly said to Smith that she was “so lucky” to not have twins.
“None of the other parents knew what had happened or anything about Skye. The comment was completely innocent and more out of humor…They weren’t to know that I did at one point have two.” Smith continued, “But the comment nearly broke me. I ran out [of] the room in tears and they had no idea why. I didn’t have the heart to tell them what had happened. A simple sticker would have avoided that entire situation.”
It was in that moment Smith realized she had to create something that would speak for parents who had just lost a baby, ensuring the misunderstanding never happens again.
She designed a poster for the NICU explaining both hospital personnel and visitors that any incubator with a purple butterfly on it means that one or more babies, in a set of multiples were lost.
“I chose butterflies, as I felt it was fitting to remember the babies that flew away, the color purple because it is suitable for both boys or girls,” said Smith.
The purple butterfly concept–now under the Skye High Foundation–has spread to hospitals in several countries around the world.
Callie is now a lively, happy seven-year-old, and twin’s memory lives in purple butterfly cards along with other initiatives to help families with babies like Skye all over the world. The purple butterflies now come in numerous forms, like ornaments, cards, blankets, stuffed animals and more.
“Ultimately I will never be able to stop this from happening but the more support groups we can set up and put things in place like the stickers the better it will be. It’s the hardest thing anyone has to deal with,” Smith said.
I Discovered My Husband’s Affair with His Boss Through a Subtle Clue
David’s invitation to a lavish party at his boss’s mansion sparked excitement in Penelope. It felt like a perfect opportunity for them to reconnect. However, her enthusiasm wavered when she noticed a detail indicating that David had visited the mansion before, planting seeds of doubt in her mind. As hidden truths began to surface, Penelope faced the unsettling possibility of betrayal.
On an ordinary Thursday evening, Penelope was busy baking cookies for her energetic five-year-old, Derrick. The kitchen was filled with the delicious aroma of vanilla and chocolate, harmonizing with Derrick’s laughter as he painted a colorful masterpiece that vaguely resembled a dinosaur.
Just then, David entered, dressed sharply but with a weary demeanor. The sight of him stirred a mix of emotions within Penelope, once thrilling, now a reminder of their strained relationship.
After exchanging greetings, David revealed an exciting opportunity: an invitation to a birthday party hosted by his boss, Laura, at her extravagant mansion. Penelope felt a rush of hope. This could be a moment for them to reconnect and enjoy each other’s company, especially with a babysitter already arranged for Derrick.
When Friday night arrived, Penelope was awestruck by Laura’s mansion. The grand structure, complete with manicured gardens and twinkling lights, felt surreal. As they stepped inside, Penelope’s excitement quickly shifted when she borrowed David’s phone to check in with the babysitter and noticed it was connected to the mansion’s Wi-Fi. Confusion washed over her, why would David’s phone already be linked here if he claimed he’d never visited before?
Throughout the evening, Penelope’s discomfort grew. David mingled with colleagues, while she wandered aimlessly, increasingly anxious. When she overheard Laura’s husband mention that Laura would have the mansion to herself, an unsettling feeling crept in. David’s casual remark about working late that night felt ominous, igniting her suspicions further.
The following day, Penelope dropped off Derrick at school, heart heavy with unease. Determined to uncover the truth, she drove to David’s office but learned he had left early for a “personal matter”. Her gut told her something was off. She called him, and his dismissive response only intensified her fears.
Fueled by a mix of dread and determination, Penelope drove to Laura’s mansion. Confronted by Laura at the door, she insisted on seeing David. Ignoring Laura’s attempts to block her, Penelope stormed inside, driven by an urgent need for answers. When she found David hiding in the closet, guilt written all over his face, everything came crashing down.
Accusations flew, and as David stumbled through half-hearted explanations, Penelope’s anger bubbled over. The confrontation concluded with her declaration that it was over, leaving David behind as she exited the lavish house, heartbroken.
The drive home blurred into a haze of tears. Back at home, the weight of betrayal felt almost unbearable, yet she knew she had to be strong for Derrick. That evening, with Maria’s comforting presence, Penelope began to process the betrayal. Seeking support, she reached out to a lawyer and started therapy to rebuild her life.
Days turned into weeks as she focused on Derrick, ensuring he felt secure and loved. One night, as she tucked him in, his innocent question about her well-being reminded her of her resilience. Smiling through her tears, she reassured him, determined to embrace a new beginning for both of them.
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