The topic of what constitutes a lasting and prosperous marriage has been a subject of ongoing discussion. While effective communication is often considered a crucial factor, a Japanese couple defied expectations by maintaining a 20-year marriage without saying a word. The surprising rationale behind their silent union adds an intriguing twist to their story.
A Japanese husband took the “silent treatment” to a whole new level.
The silent treatment entails the refusal to participate in verbal communication when someone is trying to engage and elicit a response. It is not unusual to observe a pause in communication following an argument.
However, can you imagine the difficulty of being married to a spouse who persistently avoids communication? This was the situation for a couple from the Nara region in Japan. Otou Katayama and his wife Yumi faced a prolonged two-decade rough patch in their relationship.
For decades, the man refrained from speaking to his wife, even though they lived under the same roof.
Otou Katayama continued to reside with his children and wife. Despite Yumi Katayama’s attempts to initiate conversations with her husband, she consistently faced a dearth of genuine responses. Instead, Otou communicated approval or disapproval through non-verbal cues, relying on grunts and nods.
Surprisingly, the idea of seeking a divorce or separation never crossed the wife’s mind. The couple even extended their family by welcoming a third child, all while Otou Katayama maintained his silent demeanor towards his wife.
The reason behind Katayama’s silence is even more surprising.
Years later, the father and husband elucidated the reasons behind imposing a 20-year silent treatment on his wife. Katayama believed he was lacking the attention he desired from his wife, feeling that her care was predominantly focused on their children.
Initially, he merely sulked about the situation, but over time, this evolved into a sense of jealousy toward his kids and his wife, who exhibited deep involvement in the upbringing of their offspring—perhaps a level of involvement that exceeded Katayama’s preferences.
Thanks to a TV show, husband and wife finally exchanged words after 20 years.
After two decades of silence, the adult children of the Japanese couple decided to take matters into their own hands. They approached a TV show, seeking assistance in resolving the longstanding conflict between their parents. TV Hokkaido stepped in to help the children witness Katayama speaking to his wife for the first time.
The children confessed that they couldn’t recall ever hearing a conversation between their parents. TV Hokkaido orchestrated a meeting between Otou and Yumi at a park, the same location as their first date many years ago. Unbeknownst to the spouses, their children, along with the audience, observed the emotional moment unfolding before their eyes.
After some initial hesitation, Otou Katayama finally mustered the courage to speak a few words to his wife, Yumi. In that moment, the husband felt a heightened sense of remorse and understanding regarding the situation. Katayama conveyed to his wife that he was aware of the pain and hardship his prolonged silence had caused her. Despite his regret, he also expressed gratitude to Yumi for standing by him throughout two decades of his silent period, which ultimately came to an end on that day.
Undoubtedly, the relationship between Otou and Yumi is distinctive, much like that of the couple from our previous article who, despite the woman’s disability and the criticism they faced, embarked on the journey of starting a family and became parents.
“No Matter What” is a duet by Ronan Keating and Carola, a Swedish superstar.
The Memorable Duet of Ronan Keating and Carola at Allsang på Grensen
An Unforgettable Musical Partnership
A memorable moment occurred in 2018 during the Norwegian music festival Allsang på Grensen when Irish pop star Ronan Keating teamed up with Swedish superstar Carola for a duet that has amassed over 21 million views on YouTube. In 1998, the two gave an incredible performance of “No Matter What,” a worldwide success for Keating’s band Boyzone.
A Combination of Success and Talent
Known for selling over 20 million records as a solo artist and an extra 25 million with Boyzone, Ronan Keating performed alongside Carola, a prominent figure in Swedish music since the 1980s. The audience was in awe of the combination of Carola’s strong voice and Keating’s sultry vocals during the performance.
An Emmy-winning Performance
The night’s high point was the duo’s performance, which included Carola’s beautiful voice enhancing Keating’s sincere delivery. The audience, which included a mother and daughter pair, was enthralled with the musical chemistry on stage and happily danced to the song’s beat.
Carola: A Legendary Scandinavian
There is no denying Carola’s influence on Scandinavian music. Her debut album “Främling” continues to sell more copies in Sweden than any record released by ABBA. Her triumph in the 1991 Eurovision Song Contest with “Fångad av en stormvind” cemented her place in music history; her winning performance has received over 350,000 views on YouTube.
Witness the enchantment of Ronan Keating and Carola’s rendition of “No Matter What” at Allsang på Grensen. To relive this priceless musical moment, watch the video below.
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