When my ex-husband, Josh, showed up on my doorstep after disappearing for 10 years, I had no idea why he’d returned. What could he possibly want now, after abandoning me and our daughter, Chloe?
Looking at Josh, I didn’t recognize the man I’d once fallen in love with. Time had aged him, and guilt was written all over his face. At that point, I had every right to slam the door in his face, but I didn’t do it.
I didn’t do it for Chloe’s sake. I knew she needed her dad in her life.
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Being a single mom isn’t easy, but raising my daughter, Chloe, has been the most rewarding challenge of my life.
For 10 years, it’s just been the two of us. There were moments I struggled, but every time Chloe smiled or reached a milestone, I knew it was all worth it.
She’s my pride, my strength, and my reason to keep going.
But things weren’t always this way.
Years ago, I was married to Josh, a man I once thought would be my forever.
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We met through a mutual friend, and I was immediately drawn to his charm and wit. Our friendship turned into love almost effortlessly.
Back then, I noticed a few things about Josh that I chose to ignore.
For one, he was always cautious about money. I remember how he hesitated before agreeing to splurge on a nice dinner or how he’d suggest I not buy something because it seemed “too expensive,” even when it wasn’t. I brushed it off as him being practical.
In hindsight, those were red flags I should have paid attention to.
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When Josh proposed, I didn’t think twice. We were in love, and at that time, both of us were working stable jobs.
We got married in an intimate ceremony, and it was just perfect.
But a few months into our marriage, cracks began to show. Josh’s frugality became more pronounced.
He’d question every purchase, from groceries to basic household items.
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“Do we really need this?” he’d ask, even when the answer was obvious.
It wasn’t long before I found myself managing most of our expenses, which led to tension. So, one evening, I decided to address it.
“Josh,” I said gently, “why am I covering most of the bills lately? We’re supposed to be a team.”
He sighed and apologized.
“I love you, Lauren, and I promise I’ll step up. I just want to make sure we’re being responsible.”
His words reassured me, but looking back, I realize they were just that. Words.
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When I became pregnant, Josh surprised me. He seemed genuinely excited and eager to prepare for the baby’s arrival.
He bought furniture for the nursery, attended prenatal classes with me, and even treated me to a spa day. For a while, I believed this was the real Josh.
After Chloe was born, his enthusiasm continued. He doted on her, buying toys and clothes and making sure we had what we needed.
Back then, I felt super grateful. I thought we’d finally found our groove as a family.
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But as time went on, the old Josh resurfaced. He began complaining about the cost of diapers and formula, grumbling that we were spending too much on Chloe.
When I mentioned we needed a new car seat because Chloe had outgrown hers, he snapped, “Do you know how much those things cost?”
Arguments about money became a regular occurrence. He was struggling at work, but he wouldn’t talk to me about it.
Instead, he bottled everything up, growing distant and irritable.
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Then came the evening that changed everything.
I’d just returned from work when I found a note on the kitchen table.
I can’t do this anymore. I’m sorry.
Next to it were divorce papers, already signed. Josh had left without saying anything. No explanation. No goodbye.
I was left to pick up the pieces for myself and our two-year-old daughter, Chloe. At the time, I thought I’d never recover.
The early days after Josh left were full of tears.
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I couldn’t understand how someone could walk away from their family, especially their own child. I tried calling him, but his number was disconnected. I even reached out to his friends, but none of them had heard from him.
For a long time, I questioned everything. Was he with someone else? Or was the pressure of being a father too much for him?
But Chloe didn’t leave me much time to dwell on my pain. She needed me, and I had to be strong for her.
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I took on a second job to make ends meet, often skipping meals or wearing the same old clothes so I could provide everything she needed.
As the years passed, Chloe and I built a close bond. I was her everything. Her mom, her dad, her protector, and her biggest cheerleader.
But explaining Josh’s absence was never easy.
When Chloe was younger, I’d tell her, “Daddy had to leave because he was going through things I couldn’t understand.”
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As she got older, I explained more, though I never badmouthed him.
“It wasn’t your fault, and it wasn’t mine,” I told her. “Sometimes adults make choices they regret.”
However, when Chloe turned 12, she started asking harder questions.
“Do you think he regrets it, Mom?” she asked one evening as we sat together on the couch.
“I don’t know, sweetie,” I replied. “But I do know that his choices don’t define you or me.”
“I’m glad I have you,” she said quietly.
“And I’m glad I have you, too,” I said and smiled.
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At that point, I thought we’d moved past the pain Josh had caused. I thought we were finally at peace, unaware that the past would literally come knocking at my door.
It happened on a quiet Saturday afternoon.
Chloe was at a friend’s house, and I was finally catching up on some much-needed cleaning when the doorbell rang.
I expected it to be a package or maybe a neighbor. But when I opened the door, I froze.
It was Josh.
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He looked different.
He was thinner and older, and his once vibrant eyes looked so dull.
“Hi, Lauren,” he said in a trembling voice.
I stared at him in shock. I wanted to slam the door in his face, scream at him for what he’d done, and demand answers.
But instead, I asked, “What are you doing here?”
He exhaled deeply.
“I, uh… Can I come in? I need to talk to you.”
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Against my better judgment, I stepped aside and let him in. Not because I wanted to, but because I couldn’t ignore the possibility that Chloe deserved answers, even if I didn’t want to hear them myself.
Chloe came home about an hour later.
She walked into the living room, spotted Josh, and froze mid-step. Then, her gaze shifted to me as she searched for an explanation.
“Is that… is that Dad?” she asked.
I’d shown Chloe photos of him, and he looked way older than the image of him she had built in her mind.
“Yes,” I nodded. “That’s your father.”
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“Hi, Chloe,” Josh said as he stood up awkwardly.
For a long moment, there was silence. Then Chloe, always so composed, asked the most important question.
“Why are you here?”
Josh’s shoulders slumped, and he lowered himself into a chair.
“Because I made a mistake, Chloe,” he whispered. “I left when I shouldn’t have. And now I’m here to make things right.”
“And how do I know you won’t leave again?” Chloe asked.
Josh looked like he’d seen a ghost. He started coughing before he could answer.
“You don’t,” he finally replied. “But I’ll spend every moment I have proving to you that I won’t.”
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I knew I couldn’t trust Josh, but I decided to give him a chance for my daughter’s sake.
“You can stay for dinner,” I said finally. “But this doesn’t mean anything. We’re taking this one step at a time.”
Josh nodded gratefully, clearing his throat. “Thank you, Lauren. I, uh, I promise, I just want to reconnect with Chloe.”
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That night, I lay awake, grappling with the decision to let him back into our lives. I told myself I was doing it for Chloe, but a part of me knew I needed answers, too.
Who was this man now, and why had he really come back? He looked so different. So weak. So fragile.
A few weeks after his return, things were still tense. He visited daily and bonded with Chloe while helping her with homework. They even cooked dinner together sometimes.
I noticed she was beginning to warm up to him, though her guard was still up.
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One evening, after they had finished a school project, Chloe turned to me with a question. “Mom, do you think Dad will disappear again?”
Honestly, I didn’t have an answer.
“I don’t know, sweetheart. But I promise, no matter what happens, I’ll be here.”
That’s when my gaze landed on Josh who’d overheard the conversation. He looked devastated but didn’t say anything.
Later that night, I confronted him before he left.
“What are you really doing here, Josh?” I asked. “Why now, after all this time?”
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His face clouded with guilt, but he deflected.
“I just… I saw her picture in the paper when she won the Academic Excellence Award. It hit me how much I’ve missed, Lauren.”
“I don’t believe it. You’re not telling me everything,” I pressed. “There’s more, isn’t there?”
Josh didn’t answer, but his health was already raising more questions than he could dodge.
I’d noticed him cough several times ever since he’d returned to our lives, and it hadn’t gotten any better. He also had this fatigue that didn’t seem to improve.
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Whenever I asked him about it, he just said he was “exhausted from traveling,” but I wasn’t convinced.
And then came the evening his secret came to light.
Josh was helping Chloe with her homework in the living room when I heard a loud thud. I rushed in to find him collapsed on the floor.
“What happened to him, Mom?” Chloe asked, crying.
“Josh?” I shouted, trying to shake him awake. “Josh? What happened?”
He didn’t respond and was trying hard to catch his breath. I knew we needed help, so I immediately called an ambulance and rushed him to the hospital.
I didn’t even have time to process what was happening before a doctor approached me.
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“We’ve stabilized him,” he said. “But he needs to stay overnight for observation.”
My knees wobbled as I nodded.
I was led into the room where Josh lay, pale and fragile, hooked up to machines that beeped softly in the background.
When he saw me, he weakly motioned for me to come closer.
“I have to tell you something,” he whispered.
“What is it, Josh?” I asked as I sat beside him. I gripped the chair so tightly my knuckles turned white.
“I have cancer, Lauren. Late-stage. The doctors say I don’t have much time.”
I was unable to comprehend his words.
“Cancer?” I repeated. “Why didn’t you tell us?”
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“I didn’t want you and Chloe to think I came back because I needed something,” he said. “I didn’t want to burden you more than I already have.”
“You… you left us, Josh,” I managed to speak, staring into his eyes. “You left me to raise Chloe alone, and now you’re back because you’re dying? Do you have any idea what we’ve been through?”
He winced at my words but didn’t look away.
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“I know I hurt you, Lauren,” he whispered. “But back then, I thought leaving was the right thing to do. I felt like a failure. As a husband. As a father… I couldn’t provide for you the way you deserved. My anxiety convinced me that you were better off without me. After all, our arguments never seemed to end.”
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“Better off?” I snapped as tears streamed down my cheeks. “Chloe grew up wondering why her dad didn’t want her. She deserved so much better than this, Josh! We could’ve worked everything out. We could’ve found a solution.”
“I know,” he said, his voice breaking. “I wanted to come back so many times, but I was ashamed. Every time I thought about returning, I’d convince myself it was too late. And then… this illness forced me to confront the truth. I couldn’t leave this world without making things right with Chloe.”
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I didn’t know what to say after that. We stayed silent for a few minutes as I processed my feelings. I wanted to scream at him, but I also felt like crying for him.
“What am I supposed to tell Chloe now?” I finally asked. “How am I supposed to help her through this?”
“Tell her I came back because I love her,” he cried. “Tell her I want to be here for her, for however much time I have left.”
That evening, I sat down with Chloe and gently explained what was happening.
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“So, he’s going to leave us again?” she asked, looking at me with wide eyes.
“No, honey. Not like before,” I said, pulling her into a hug. “This time, he’s here to stay for as long as he can.”
Chloe was hurt, confused, and angry all at once.
“Why did he have to wait until now? Why couldn’t he come back when I was little?”
“I don’t know, sweetie. But I think… I think he was scared. People don’t always make the right choices, even when they mean well.”
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My little girl was angry, but she didn’t let it control her decision. She understood her father was in a difficult position, so she agreed to forgive him.
She told me she wanted to spend what time they had left together.
In the weeks following his diagnosis, Josh made every effort to bond with Chloe. He played board games with her, cheered her on at her soccer matches, and even helped her bake cookies for a school fundraiser.
One Saturday afternoon, Chloe found Josh writing at the dining table.
“What are you doing, Dad?” she asked curiously.
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“I’m writing letters for you,” he smiled. “For all the big moments in your life. Your graduation, your wedding, or just a day when you need a reminder of how much I love you.”
“But you don’t need to leave me notes,” Chloe said as she sat beside him. “I just want you to stay.”
Those words broke my heart.
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Unfortunately, Josh passed away a few months later.
He was happy knowing he was surrounded by the two most important people in his life during the last moments of his life.
“I love you more than you’ll ever know,” he’d said a few minutes before he left us.
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After his death, Chloe clung to the letters he left behind, often reading them aloud.
One evening, she turned to me and said, “I know he wasn’t perfect, but he loved me in the end. That’s what I’ll hold on to.”
I smiled through my tears and pulled her into a hug.
I felt incredibly proud of the compassion and resilience Chloe had inherited. Moreover, I was amazed at how she’d forgiven her father and only wanted to remember how kind and caring he was.
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As for me, I’ve also forgiven my ex-husband, and it has given me the peace to move forward in my life. I’m grateful fate gave me a chance to answer the questions that had been worrying me for ten years.
I don’t know what the future holds for us, but I’m relieved knowing my past will never haunt me again.
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This work is inspired by real events and people, but it has been fictionalized for creative purposes. Names, characters, and details have been changed to protect privacy and enhance the narrative. Any resemblance to actual persons, living or dead, or actual events is purely coincidental and not intended by the author.
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‘Families don’t have to match’ – Black couple share their journey to adopting three white children
Sadie and Jarvis Sampson tried everything for years to get pregnant, and eventually they accepted that they would only ever be aunt and uncle. Then, one day, they received a text that completely turned their world upside down.
Since getting married in January 2018, the pair has been trying to get pregnant, so when that didn’t work out naturally, they tried everything else.
The Houston mother told Love What Matters, “Ovulation tests, prenatal vitamins, cycle tracking apps, fertility monitors.”
“We didn’t even try our luck at following the unsolicited counsel of strangers, friends, and family. We tried, prayed, and waited for fourteen months. Month after Month. pregnancy test negative following negative test. It appeared like we would require help getting pregnant. We even went so far as to discuss it with medical professionals.
The couple seemed to get little assistance from the doctors. Sadie was advised by everyone that she would get pregnant if she reduced weight. Since she had no other options, she underwent gastric surgery and shed 28 pounds.
“She informed me that since she was unable to give me the fertility medication, she would refer me to a fertility specialist if I wasn’t pregnant within six months,” Sadie recalled. I was ecstatic to hear that. We finally received a response other than “no”! We were ecstatic to hear “not right now.”
Unfortunately, though, the couple felt as though they had begun over after Sadie lost the weight and they were unable to conceive.
Connecting the Dots – Adoption Puzzle Fundraising EventAs everyone is aware, we received a call regarding our little two weeks ago.
Published on Friday, August 30, 2019 by Sadie Sampson
Sadie said, “I had always felt like I was meant to be a mother.” “I was still not pregnant even though my surgeon had spent a long time to warn me about how fertile I would be following surgery. Thus, we gave up. We came to the realization that our only destiny was to be our nieces’ aunts and uncles and our goddaughters’ godparents.
The couple had just come to the painful conclusion that they would not be able to conceive when Sadie’s friend texted her to ask if they would be willing to foster a child that a couple she knew was thinking about for themselves.
At first, the couple was apprehensive since they had been instructed by a caseworker to look after the child while the mother sought therapy. The couple was concerned that they would grow overly devoted to the child. But soon after, the narrative was altered.
The caseworker stated, “The birth mother decided she would prefer you guys adopt the child instead.”
“Holy crap!!” was the first thing Sadie uttered out loud when she learned she was expecting a child.
“Overnight, we went from not having any kids to possibly fostering one to, ‘You guys are parents!’” Still in shock, I listened to the caseworker as she spoke. After hanging up, I dialed my spouse! “Baby!” They desire that we adopt the child! They want us to have kids,” I cried out. Hold on! Really? He exclaimed, “I assumed they just wanted us to foster him.” “Nope!” “They want us to be his parents,” I remarked.
Over the weekend, the couple not only processed the surprising news but also braced themselves in case the mother had second thoughts.
On Monday, the mother not only expressed her desire for them to adopt the child, but also stated that she was prepared to sign the adoption papers independently.
At 33 weeks, their son had been born—seven weeks ahead of schedule. His weight was 4 lbs. 5 oz. Sadie writes, “He fit in one of my husband’s hands.”
Sadie said, “He was so small, swaddled in a white blanket with stripes of pink and blue.” He was early, therefore he couldn’t eat on his own, thus an NG tube was coming out of his nose. But my goodness, was he adorable!
The couple was urged to create a registry after they announced their announcement on social media. In just three days, 55 of the 72 goods they had advertised had been purchased.
Following the adoption of Ezra Lee, which was completed in October 2020, the couple had the cutest family portraits shot, sporting t-shirts that said, “Families don’t have to match.”
Through embryo donation, Sadie and Jarvis became parents to twin twins, Destinee and Journey, in 2021. The black couple, adhering to their family credo, “Families don’t have to match,” gave birth to three white children: two girls and one boy.
There is just one reaction for anyone who judges this lovely family: love is the strongest foundation there is.
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