Planning a wedding is supposed to be fun, right? Well, it wasn’t for me. Everything started off great. Mark and I agreed we wanted something small and simple. But when his mom, Linda, got involved, things took a turn.
Linda is one of those people who always knows best. She has an opinion on everything—how to cook, raise kids, and now, how to plan a wedding. Mark, my sweet, loyal husband, always says, “She’s just trying to help.” Sure, but her “help” usually means taking over.
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The first major problem? The invitations.
When Mark and I picked out our wedding invitations, we were so happy. They were simple and minimalist, just like we wanted. We liked the clean design—nothing fancy, just our style. I remember showing them to Linda, hoping she’d smile and say something nice. Instead, she wrinkled her nose like she had smelled something awful.
“This is what you’re sending out?” she asked, holding up the sample like it was a piece of trash.
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“Yes, we love it,” I said, forcing a smile. I could already feel the tension rising in my chest.
“It’s so… plain,” Linda replied, not even trying to hide her disapproval. “You know, people will think you didn’t put any effort into this. You should really go with something more… elegant.”
I wanted to say something sharp, but Mark gave me that look. You know the one, where his eyes plead, please don’t start anything. So, I swallowed my words and nodded, even though my stomach was turning.
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A few days later, I thought things had blown over. Linda hadn’t mentioned the invitations again, so I figured we were in the clear. Boy, was I wrong.
One afternoon, Mark and I were sitting in the kitchen when he casually mentioned, “Mom said she made some changes to the invitations.”
“Wait, what?” I asked, my voice going up a notch.
“She just tweaked a few things,” Mark said, shrugging. “She’s excited. You know how she is.”
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“What do you mean tweaked?” I demanded.
Mark scratched the back of his neck, looking uncomfortable. “She hired a calligrapher and added some flourishes. She also, uh, changed the wording a bit.”
I felt my face heat up. “She what?”
“She just wanted to make them look nicer,” Mark said, trying to stay calm. “She thought it would be a nice touch.”
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I couldn’t believe what I was hearing. “Mark, we didn’t ask her to do that! Those were our invitations, and now she’s completely changed them!”
He sighed. “I know, I know. But what’s done is done. It’s not a big deal.”
“Not a big deal?” I couldn’t hold back anymore. “Mark, she hijacked our wedding invitations! And you’re okay with this?”
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As if that wasn’t bad enough, Linda didn’t stop at redesigning the invitations. She went ahead and added people Mark and I didn’t even know. Old work friends, neighbors, and distant relatives we hadn’t seen in years suddenly made the cut. It was like Linda was planning a completely different wedding than the one we wanted.
“Why are we inviting people we don’t even know?” I asked Mark when I saw the list.
“She just thought it would be nice to include more people,” Mark explained, still defending her. “You know, so the wedding feels bigger.”
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“Bigger?” I scoffed. “We wanted a small wedding! Why is she adding people we’ve never met?”
Mark rubbed his temples, looking stressed. “She’s excited, okay? She just wants to help.”
“Help?” I was furious. “This isn’t helping, Mark. She’s taking over!”
I spent the rest of the night fuming, going over the new guest list, and thinking about how our simple wedding was spiraling out of control. Every time I tried to talk to Mark about it, he’d say the same thing: “She’s just trying to be involved.”
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But I didn’t want her “involvement.” I wanted our wedding, not hers.
Things reached a breaking point when Linda called to gush about the invitations. She went on and on about the gold envelopes and the elegant calligraphy, hiring a professional to do it. She even bragged about how she had included her “special friends.”
“Oh, it’s going to be such a beautiful wedding!” she exclaimed. “Everyone will be so impressed with the invitations!”
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I could barely hold it together. “Linda, you didn’t even ask us before changing the invitations.”
There was a long pause on the other end of the phone. Then she said, “Well, I just thought they needed a little… improvement. You’ll thank me later.”
I hung up the phone, shaking with anger. This wasn’t her wedding. It was mine and Mark’s. But Linda had decided to take matters into her own hands.
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Mark tried to calm me down later that night. “She’s just excited. Let’s not make this into a big fight.”
“Mark, she’s hijacked everything!” I snapped. “What are we supposed to do now? Just go along with it?”
Mark looked down, clearly uncomfortable. “Maybe we can just… send out her version. What’s the harm?”
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I stared at him in disbelief. “What’s the harm? This is our wedding. Not hers.”
I had had enough.
One night, after Mark had gone to bed, I sat down at the kitchen table with our original wedding invitations. They were simple, just the way we wanted, with clean lines and no frills. I smiled as I ran my fingers over the paper. These were the invitations we had chosen—our wedding invitations, not Linda’s over-the-top version.
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I went through the guest list Linda had created. There were so many names I didn’t even recognize. Her old work friends, people from her book club, distant relatives we hadn’t seen in years. I tossed that list aside and grabbed our original one with the people we actually wanted to be there.
The next day, while Linda was busy boasting about her “perfect” invitations, I quietly slipped out to the post office. I mailed our original invitations to the people we cared about. No confrontation, no drama, just a silent fix to the problem.
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The big day finally arrived. The sun was shining, the sky was clear, and everything was just as we had imagined it. Mark and I stood hand in hand, feeling a sense of calm wash over us. Our closest friends and family were there, just the way we had wanted. The simple, intimate wedding we’d dreamed of was happening, and it was perfect.
Karma hit during the reception. Linda was mingling, her eyes scanning the room. I watched from across the room as her smile started to falter. She was counting heads, and I could see the confusion slowly spread across her face.
Confused elderly lady at a wedding reception | Source: Midjourney
Linda had gone all out preparing for her VIPs—seating cards, special menu items, even personalized favors. But all those seats sat empty, and she had to awkwardly explain to the people at the table why half her guests weren’t there.
She hurried over to Mark, pulling him aside.
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“Mark,” she whispered urgently, “where are the Thompsons? And Carol? And my cousin Maggie? They all said they were coming!”
Mark blinked. “I don’t know, Mom. Did they RSVP?”
“Of course they did!” Linda snapped, her voice rising. “I spoke to them myself!”
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I couldn’t help but smirk as I eavesdropped on the conversation. Linda was getting more and more frantic as she listed off the names of her “special guests.” One by one, she started texting and calling them, trying to figure out where they were. And one by one, she got the same answer: “We never got an invitation.”
The realization hit her like a ton of bricks. Her fancy invitations had never gone out, and she was left scrambling to explain why half her guest list was missing. The look on her face was priceless.
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I watched as she put on a brave face, trying to act like everything was fine. But every time someone asked about her missing friends, I could see her smile crack just a little more. She spent the rest of the night in damage control mode, but the truth was out—her grand plans had fallen apart, and there was nothing she could do about it.
An upset elderly lady | Source: Midjourney
When it comes to family members who overstep, especially in emotional situations like weddings, you have to protect your own space. It’s easy to let things slide to keep the peace, but sometimes, you have to take control and quietly reclaim what’s yours.
The wedding was our first real test of that, and we passed with flying colors.
MEET NYAKIM GATWEC – A MODEL NICKNAMED ‘QUEEN OF THE DARK’
A woman was utterly surprised when her Uber driver offered her an unsolicited tip on how to care for her remarkable skin.
Celebrating her striking beauty, the fashion icon, famously known as the “Queen of the Dark,” responded with laughter, dismissing his remarks with ease.
Read on to discover what the Uber driver said and how she transformed the situation into a learning opportunity!
Having spent her early years in refugee camps in Ethiopia and Kenya, Nyakim Gatwech envisioned America as a “heaven on earth.”
However, upon arriving in Buffalo at the age of 14, Gatwech found herself often alone, crying over the harsh judgments she faced due to her deeply pigmented skin.
Based in Minnesota and originally from South Sudan, the model endured years of bullying for her radiant dark complexion, with comments like, “You don’t take showers. That’s why your skin is dirty,” or, “Smile so we can see you, Nyakim. We can’t see you.”
“In class, for example, the teacher would ask a question and say, ‘Oh, Nyakim, can you answer that?’ A kid would say, ‘Who are you talking to? We can’t see her. She’s not here.’ The whole class would start laughing, and I would just cry,” the now 31-year-old woman shares with Cosmopolitan.
As a young girl desperate to fit in, it was tough when random men would bet on whether she was wearing leggings or if her skin was genuinely that dark.
“At one point, I did consider [bleaching my skin]. When I came to America from a refugee camp in Africa [at age 14], I lived in Buffalo, New York. I would cry myself to sleep after being bullied [about my skin],” she says. “There are so many beautiful dark-skinned Sudanese women who bleach their skin.”
Gatwech revealed that her own sister was among those who bleached their skin. “My own sister did it. But when I told her I wanted to [after living in America for a few months], she told me no. ‘I’m not going to let my daughter do it, or you, nobody.’”
Queen of the Dark
Now hailed as the Queen of the Dark, this woman – who has faced discrimination from designers, makeup artists, and even fellow models – feels empowered by overcoming negativity.
Gatwech’s confidence and profound love for her deep chocolatey skin are supported by her 962,000 loyal Instagram followers.
“My chocolate is elegant. So is what I represent… A nation of warriors,” she writes in one post.
Fans are captivated by her striking beauty.
“Omgggggg I love your skin and melanin,” one fan comments, while another says, “love your beautiful skin tone so much! God makes beautiful creations such as you to remind us of His magnificence!”
Responding to the overwhelming support, Gatwech states, “I grew to learn to love myself… Now, I am not bothered by it [the negativity]. I accept my skin, I love myself, and I’m not insecure about my skin anymore. I don’t think I’m ugly anymore. I have confidence in myself.”
‘Stupidest questions’
A few years ago, Gatwech recounts an encounter with an Uber driver who asked if she’d ever consider bleaching her unique skin.
“He said, ‘Wow, you’re dark,’” Gatwech tells Cosmopolitan about her conversation with the driver. “I just laughed. I wanted to know why he thought I should. He said because life would be easier for me. It would be easier for me to be in a relationship, or guys would be more attracted to me if I was lighter. If I was going to a job interview, I would get the job opportunities because I’m lighter. I just said, ‘[Even if] being lighter would make my life easier, I’d rather take the [hard] road.’”
She adds, “I’m accustomed to people asking the most absurd questions about my skin.”
Gatwech then shared her story on Instagram, accompanied by a stunning photo of herself with three other dark-skinned Sudanese women.
She wrote, “A nation with people so dark you won’t believe your eyes… skin so rich and teeth so bright. Gosh, how I love my country, my people, and everything that comes with it.”
She detailed her encounter with the Uber driver: “[SIC] I was asked by my Uber driver the other day, he said, ‘Don’t take this offensively, but if you were given 10 thousand dollars, would you bleach your skin for that amount?’ I couldn’t even respond; I started laughing so hard. Then he said, ‘So that’s a no?’ and I was like, ‘Hell to the f*cking yeah, that’s a no. Why on earth would I ever bleach this beautiful melanin God blessed me with?’ Then he asked, ‘So you see it as a blessing?’”
Her followers quickly responded with praise and support.
“I guess he didn’t get the memo… black is beautiful,” one fan commented.
“I love you for loving you,” shared another. A third added, “Why would we ever want to mess up something so beautiful?”
When asked by Yahoo Beauty what advice she would give to young black girls facing similar challenges, she said, “You are beautiful, you are unique, and there are people who love you just the way you are. They say the darker the berry, the sweeter the juice. Embrace your darkness!”
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