My son, Michael, surprised me with a cottage in the countryside, but when we got there, I realized it was all a trick. After a while, I discovered the real reason why he did this, and I still can’t forgive him. What would you do?
Hello! My name is Richard, and I’m 68 years old. I never thought I’d be asking strangers for advice, but here I am. I need some outside perspective on this.
For some background: I’ve been a single dad for most of my adult life. My wife, Emma, passed away from cancer when our son, Michael (currently 35 years old), was just ten years old.
It was a difficult time for both of us, but we managed to pull through together.
Since then, it’s been just the two of us against the world. I did my best to be both mother and father to him, working hard to give him every opportunity I could.
Growing up, Michael was a good kid. He had his moments of rebellion, sure, but overall, he was kind, hardworking, and seemed to have a good head on his shoulders.
He did well in school, went to college on a partial scholarship, and landed a good job in finance after graduation.
I’ve always been immensely proud of him, watching him grow into what I thought was a successful adult.
We remained close even after he moved out, talking on the phone regularly and having dinner together at least once a week.
That’s why what happened over a year ago came as such a shock.
It was a Tuesday evening when Michael came to my house, brimming with excitement. “Dad,” he said, “I’ve got amazing news! I bought you a cottage in the countryside!”
“A cottage? Michael, what are you talking about?“
“It’s perfect, Dad. It’s peaceful, serene, and just what you need. You’re going to love it!”
I was taken aback. Move to a cottage far from here? That seemed like too much. “Michael, you didn’t have to do that. I’m perfectly happy here.”
But he insisted! “No, Dad, you deserve it. The house you’re in now is TOO BIG FOR YOU ALONE. It’s time for a change. Trust me, this is going to be great for you.”
I have to admit, I was skeptical. The house I was living in had been our family home for over 30 years. It was where Michael grew up, where Emma and I had built our life together.
But my son seemed so excited, so sure that this was the right move. And I trusted him completely. After all, we’d always been honest with each other.
So, against my better judgment, I agreed to move and sell my house.
The next few days, I was packing and preparing to leave, while Michael handled most of the details. He assured me that everything was taken care of.
He was being so helpful that I pushed aside my lingering doubts.
Finally, the day came for us to drive to my new home. As we got in the car, Michael was chatting away about all the amenities this new place had.
But as we drove further and further from the city, I started feeling uneasy. The scenery became more and more desolate. It wasn’t woodsy or hillside.
Our familiar neighbor and the bustling streets of the city were gone and all that was left were empty, ugly fields, and even an abandoned farm.
The cottages nearby, which Michael knew I had admired and considered buying when his mother was alive, were cozy, homey places, surrounded by nature. This was the opposite.
“Michael,” I wondered, “are you sure we’re going the right way? This doesn’t look like cottage country to me.”
He assured me we were on the right track, but I noticed he wouldn’t quite meet my eyes.
After about another hour of driving, we turned onto a long, winding driveway. At the end of it stood a large, boring building.
My heart sank as I read the sign: “Sunset Haven.”
This wasn’t a cottage. It was a nursing home.
I turned to Michael, trying to quell my emotions. “What is this? What’s going on?”
“Dad,” he said, but couldn’t even look me in the eyes. “I’m sorry. I know I said it was a cottage, but… this is better for you. You’ll be taken care of here.”
“Taken care of? I don’t need to be taken care of! I’m perfectly capable of living on my own. Why would you lie to me?“
“Dad, please.” Michael finally turned to me, and his eyes were pleading. “You’ve been forgetting things lately. I’m worried about you living alone. This place has great facilities, and there will always be someone around if you need help.”
“Forgetting things? Everyone forgets things sometimes!” I yelled, and angry tears fell from my eyes. “This isn’t right, Michael. Take me home right now.”
Michael shook his head and dropped the real bombshell of the day. “I can’t do that, Dad. I’ve… I’ve already sold the house.”
I felt like the ground had disappeared from under me. I knew I had agreed to sell, but I had all the time in the world. I wanted to meet the new owners, pick a nice family, and hell, tell them exactly how to care for the old Elm tree in the yard.
How could he have sold it without my knowledge or consent?
I demanded answers, but Michael was evasive. He mentioned something about having power of attorney and doing what was best for me.
I shut down after that, and the next few hours were a blur.
Somehow, I ended up checked into Sunset Haven and was led to a small room with a narrow bed and a window overlooking a parking lot.
The walls were a sickly shade of beige, and the air smelled of disinfectant and old people.
My old home retained the scent of my wife’s cinnamon coffee cake, and I never changed her decor choices. My only upgrades were new appliances when needed, and Michael had given me an Alexa.
But now, this sad, clinical place was my new home.
I couldn’t do anything about it, either. I thought about Michael’s words while I spent the next few days in shock and anger. Was I so far gone that I forgot everything?
Was this the right thing? Had I caused Michael harm? Had I been diagnosed with dementia or something?
I couldn’t imagine any of that, but Michael’s parting look of guilt and concern left me dubious.
The staff at Sunset Haven were kind enough, and they tried to engage me in activities to make me feel welcome. But I couldn’t shake the feeling that something was wrong.
It was during an afternoon of more stewing in my feelings that I overheard a conversation that made everything even worse.
I was sitting in the common room, pretending to read a magazine, when I heard two nurses talking in hushed tones nearby.
“Poor Mr. Johnson,” one of them said. “Did you hear about his son?”
“No, what happened?”
“Apparently, he had some pretty big gambling debts. That’s why he sold his dad’s house and put him in here.”
I felt like I’d been punched in the gut. Gambling debts? Was that the real reason behind all of this? Had my son sold me out, quite literally, to cover his own mistakes?
I was even more devastated.
The son I’d raised, the boy I thought I knew better than anyone, had discarded me for selfish reasons.
I thought back to all the times I’d helped him out of tight spots, all the sacrifices I’d made to give him a good life.
Luckily, fate intervened in the form of an old friend. Jack, a lawyer I’d known for years, came to Sunset Haven to visit his sister and was shocked to find me there.
When I told him what happened, he was outraged. He offered to look into the legality of what Michael had done.
It turned out that the sale of my house had been rushed, with several legal corners cut in the process. With Jack’s help, I was able to contest the sale.
After a long battle that ended with Michael having to return the money he took from the buyers and pay all the legal fees, I finally got my home back and moved out of Sunset Haven.
Now, here’s where I need advice.
My son has been trying to apologize. He showed up at my house last week, and I hardly recognized him. He looked terrible, like he hadn’t slept or eaten properly in weeks.
When I let him in, he broke down.
He told me how he’d started gambling to cope with stress at work, how things had spiraled out of control, and how he’d convinced himself that selling my house and putting me in a home was the best solution for everyone.
He swore he’d been getting help for his addiction and was committed to making things right.
“I was wrong, Dad,” he sobbed. “So wrong. Can you ever forgive me?“
Part of me wants to let bygones be bygones. He’s my son, and we only have each other in this world. But another part of me is still so angry and hurt.
How can I trust him again after what he did? He lied to me, manipulated me, and stole my home to cover up his own mistakes.
Even if he’s truly sorry now, how do I know he won’t do something like this again in the future?
What would you do in my place?
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Little-known mistakes and bloopers in ‘Leave It to Beaver’
If only the world was more like this the show Leave It to beaver, the world would be a much better place.
However, even the sun has its spots, and Leave It to Beaver was not without its share of mistakes and lesser-known quirks behind the scenes.
Set a higher standard
Despite being centered around a fictional family, Leave It to Beaver set a higher standard of wholesome decency for Americans, contrasting sharply with other television programs that have progressively declined in quality since its airing.
The beloved American television sitcom captured the hearts of audiences during its original run from 1957 to 1963, becoming iconic for its portrayal of idyllic family values and wholesome humor.
To put it simple, the series was very well-written and funny as hell.
But now, let’s take a look at some hilarious moments that weren’t meant to make it on screen — what we call bloopers or goofs. There’s one particular scene that really surprised me; a scene that wasn’t edited out and features an unexpected blooper.
June Cleaver’s calendar
One well-known mistake, which I had never heard about until now, involves June Cleaver’s calendar. Over the years, the Cleaver household has been presented as the quintessential example of good housekeeping.
Every organized and well-planned home, of course, has a calendar to keep track of important dates. June Cleaver certainly had her calendar, but it seems they forgot to update the one hanging on the wall of the Cleaver home.
For those with sharp eyes, you can spot that June Cleaver’s calendar displayed incorrect dates in the episode The Poor Loser, from 1963. In fact, the show likely used a calendar from 1961.
In the same episode, Ward and Beaver are set to go watch a baseball game. During a close-up of the tickets, there’s a noticeable error: “Mayfield” is misspelled as “Mayfied” in the smaller print, even though it’s spelled correctly in the large print.
The fake bee
In earlier times, special effects were far from the efficient technology we have today, and filmmakers had to rely on more analog methods. For those of you who remember the episode The Silent Treatment, you might recall a scene where Beaver is painting a door and a bee suddenly takes an interest in him.
Naturally, using real bees posed significant challenges, so the production team resorted to a fake bee hovering on a string. If you look closely, you can clearly see the string bouncing around Beaver’s face!
“I got in a lot less trouble”
Jerry Mathers portrayed Theodore “Beaver” Cleaver and quickly became everyone’s favorite kid brother. The actor, who celebrated his 76th birthday in 2024, remains alive and well.
He has also been asked whether his off-screen personality mirrored any aspects of Beaver’s character.
“Well, I got in a lot less trouble,” he laughed. “But then again, I had a lot of people watching me all the time. Because when I was due doing the show, there were about 60 men and probably eight or nine women on the show these were lighting people and all the different things that they have to do to make a series. Between takes, when I wasn’t doing things, they would come out and we’d play — throw footballs, throw baseballs. It was like an extended family. There was a whole bunch of people, and they wanted me not to say, ‘I don’t want to be here anymore.’”
Jerry Mathers’ infamous audition
When it comes to Jerry Mathers, one can’t help but mention his infamous audition for the role of Beaver. He made quite the impression — let’s just say it was memorable.
“I came dressed in a Cub Scout uniform, so that should have been a big clue,” Mathers recalled.
The young boy was supposed to head to his Cub Scouts meeting right after the audition, and he wasn’t particularly enthusiastic about being there. However,he quickly impressed the show’s creators, Joe Connolly and Bob Mosher, with his natural charm, innocence, and ability to deliver lines authentically.
Mathers candidly expressed his concerns about missing his Cub Scouts meeting, which only added to his charm. The producers found his honesty refreshing and knew immediately that he was the perfect choice for the role.
Ironically, there wasn’t much time for scouting for Mathers after he landed the role of Theodore.
“We had to go to school for three hours a day, and it could be chopped up, because we’d go out and if they’d shoot the original, the long shot, and then we’d do closeups. You were jumping in and out of school all the time, and you’d come back 20 minutes later and you study for maybe another 40 minutes, and then you have to do another scene or whatever,” Jerry explained.
Negotiating genius
Jimmy Mathers was a trailblazer in more ways than one; he became the first child actor to negotiate a deal that entitled him to a slice of the merchandising pie from a TV show. Talk about smart business moves!
This savvy decision turned out to be quite the cash cow, as Leave It to Beaver continues to rake in revenue more than 60 years after its original run. Who knew that a show about a kid in a striped shirt and his misadventures could keep making money long after the final credits rolled?
Tony Dow was not the original Wally
Actor Tony Dow is best known for his role as Wally Cleaver, the quintessential All-American older brother to Theodore “Beaver” Cleaver and son of Ward and June Cleaver.
In the beloved series Leave It to Beaver, Wally navigates the ups and downs of teenage life, tackling relatable issues like dating while offering guidance to his more mischievous younger brother, Beaver.
Dow’s portrayal of Wally was nothing short of iconic; his charm, warmth, and relatable persona helped make Wally a household name. But did you know he wasn’t the first actor cast in the role?
The pilot episode originally featured Paul Sullivan as Wally Cleaver, but he was replaced because a sudden growth spurt made him appear too old for the role.
June Cleaver’s hidden scar
Barbara Billingsley, best known for her role as June Cleaver, will forever be remembered for vacuuming the Cleaver living room while impeccably dressed in high heels and pearls.
Her portrayal of parenting was characterized by calmness and respect, setting a new standard for family-oriented sit-coms.
However, there’s more to June’s trademark look than meets the eye. The actress wore her iconic pearls to conceal a surgical scar at the base of her neck that she preferred to keep hidden. As for the high heels, they were a practical choice to maintain height parity with her growing sons.
Did Jerry Mathers and Tony Dow get along?
Studying photos from the Leave It to Beaver set reveals the undeniable bond between Tony Dow and Jerry Mathers.
”Wally is the perfect big brother,” Jerry Mathers said in a 2006 interview with the Television Academy Foundation.
“He’s the champion basketball player, football player. He does everything right. He’s a huge letterman. He gets A’s on all his papers. Everyone loves him.”
Their connection shined through in their eyes and body language, showcasing the genuine emotions that made their characters resonate so deeply. It’s hard to portray such strong sibling dynamics without real feelings behind them.
For those curious, Tony and Jerry truly became best friends during filming and maintained that lifelong friendship.
Following Dow’s passing in 2022, Mathers expressed his grief, saying, ”He was not only my brother on TV, but in many ways in life as well. Tony leaves an empty space in my heart that won’t be filled.”
Jerry Mathers was not killed in Vietnam
Did you know that Jerry Mathers was once rumored to have died in Vietnam? Thankfully, that was just a false report.
The young actor was never in Vietnam. Although he attempted to enlist in the Marines, he was turned down due to concerns that sending him overseas could lead to negative publicity if anything happened to him. Instead, Mathers enlisted in the Air National Guard, where he spent his service time in the United States.
The most expensive episode
One of the most legendary episodes of Leave It to Beaver aired on May 5, 1961. In a memorable scene, Beaver climbs up to prove that there’s no soup in a giant cup on a billboard but accidentally falls in.
This particular episode had a production cost of $40,000, making it the most expensive of the entire series. It also became one of Jerry Mathers’ most memorable episode, as he struggled with a fear of heights.
Toilet on screen
Leave It to Beaver was groundbreaking in many ways. One of the show’s unique aspects was its focus on the children’s perspective, which allowed viewers to connect with the characters on a deeper level. Another significant feature was its ability to highlight everyday aspects of family life.
This was notably exemplified in an episode where Wally carries a toilet seat, marking a pivotal moment in television history.
Even if only the tank was visible, it was among the earliest programs to showcase a bathroom in any form. In the 1950s, networks were extremely hesitant to display bathrooms on television, let alone an actual toilet.
The first episode almost never made it on air
The first episode of Leave it to Beaver was banned from airing due to its content involving an alligator and the portrayal of a bathroom, which was not allowed on television at the time.
In the very first episode, Wally and the Beaver decide to buy a pet alligator. Jerry Mathers recalled, “We were going to put it in the toilet because we knew alligators needed water. At that time, you not only couldn’t show a toilet, but you also couldn’t show a bathroom on television. It was prohibited.”
The show’s producers battled with censors to include the bathroom scene, ultimately reaching a compromise to only show the back of the toilet tank. “That was a way that Leave It to Beaver actually set some precedents for the television industry: We were the first show to depict a bathroom,” Mathers explained, talking with Fox News.
No laughing policy
The show’s creators sought a gentle comedic tone, they preferred elicit chuckles rather than uproarious laughter.
This intentional choice played a significant role in shaping the show’s unique atmosphere, fostering a warm, family-friendly environment.
The producers believed comedy should stem naturally from the characters and their interactions, avoiding exaggerated jokes or over-the-top humor. As Tony Dow put it: “If any line got too much of a laugh, they’d cut it.”
As we wrap up our dive into the delightful world of Leave It to Beaver, it’s clear that this classic sitcom was more than just a reflection of family life in the ’50s and ’60s — it was a treasure trove of laughter, quirks, and unforgettable bloopers.
So, next time you settle in to watch an episode of Leave It to Beaver, remember to keep an eye out for those little moments, After all, who doesn’t love a good blooper? Here’s to the laughs, the memories, and the timeless charm of Leave It to Beaver! Feel free to share your favorite bloopers and funny facts with us on social media — we’d love to hear what made you chuckle!
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