There’s something magical about Cyndi Lauper, the lively artist behind the 1983 hit “Girls Just Want to Have Fun,” a song that quickly became a global anthem, encouraging women everywhere to embrace fun and freedom.
Lauper is the definition of cool. Her quirky, carefree personality, playful fashion, and colorful hair inspire people with her message to always be yourself.
However, behind the playful voice that spreads joy to her listeners, Lauper battles a severe skin condition called psoriasis. At one point, it was so intense that, as she described, “It looked like someone threw boiling water on me.”
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The legendary pop star, now 69, recently opened up about her ongoing battle with psoriasis—a chronic skin condition that has no cure—since she was first diagnosed in 2010.
Psoriasis can cause severe pain, itching, discomfort, and rough, scaly patches on the skin. About 8 million people in the U.S. and 125 million globally live with this condition.
Lauper’s symptoms started as scalp irritation and general discomfort, which worsened over time.
Initially, she thought her itchy scalp was from frequently coloring her hair, but the symptoms continued, causing both physical pain and emotional strain for the award-winning musician.
The “Time after Time” singer is a busy mother, touring pop star, and activist.
Inspired by her sister Ellen, who is a lesbian, Lauper has become a strong supporter of LGBT rights, working tirelessly to advocate for the community.
Her 2005 song “Above the Clouds” was written in honor of Matthew Shepard, a 21-year-old gay student who was beaten to death in Wyoming. Lauper also started the “True Colors” concert tour in 2007-2008, which raises support for local and private LGBT charities and organizations.
Besides her advocacy, Lauper has an impressive career as a singer, songwriter, and actor. Over the past forty years, she has received many awards, including a Tony Award, two Grammy Awards, an MTV Music Video Award, and an Emmy Award for her role in a 1995 episode of the TV show *Mad About You*.
She also has a star on the Hollywood Walk of Fame, is a member of the Songwriters Hall of Fame, and in 2013, her humanitarian work earned her a special invitation to attend President Barack Obama’s second inauguration.
Despite her diagnosis, Lauper continues to stay strong. She is committed to not letting psoriasis hold her back and works on managing stress to avoid triggering flare-ups.
When she was first diagnosed and dealing with severe psoriasis, Lauper wrote the music and lyrics for the Broadway musical *Kinky Boots*, which won her a Tony Award for Best Original Score. She became the first woman to win a Tony in that category on her own. The show also won five more Tony Awards, including Best New Musical.
In a conversation with the American Academy of Dermatology (AAD), Lauper openly shared her experience living with the autoimmune skin condition, hoping her story might help others.
“I’ve never been able to really manage stress,” she admitted, explaining that she now takes a holistic approach to healing and stress relief both at home and on the road. She learned reiki, a Japanese technique for relaxation, saying, “That helps me.”
Along with reiki, Lauper works to stay grounded by meditating, practicing yoga, or taking walks in the fresh air with her dog and her husband, David Thornton, whom she married in 1991. The couple has one son, born in 1997.
“It’s not a bad thing to take care of yourself,” Lauper said, urging people to always “make a little time for you.”
She encourages starting small. “How about five minutes for you?” she added.
Lauper speaks with resilience about her experience, explaining that “when psoriasis gets really bad, it’s really hard to get up again.” She shared that at times, she couldn’t regulate her body temperature, leading to chills that could result in hypothermia. Even when resting, her condition only worsened, and hearing people dismiss it as “just a rash” added to her struggles.
“You don’t have to suffer,” Lauper said. Treatments, such as topical and oral medication or injections, can help ease the often unbearable symptoms of psoriasis. For Lauper, she found relief with Novartis’ Cosentyx, and as a spokesperson for the medication, she happily shares that she’s been “four years clear.”
In 2017, Lauper spoke with HealthDay about managing her psoriasis.
“It’s funny—you start wearing gloves, or this and that, hoping [psoriasis] is invisible, but it’s not. I didn’t show it off, like, ‘Woo-hoo, check this out!’ Doesn’t everyone try to hide it? You’d be surprised how many people have it and don’t talk about it. It’s one of those invisible things, so it’s good to talk about it.”
She shares more about it on her podcast *PsO in the Know*, where she talks with celebrities, advocates, and everyday people who offer insights on living with psoriasis.
The show is now in its third season and is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Google Podcasts, Pandora, and Stitcher.
Lauper isn’t the only celebrity with psoriasis. Kim Kardashian, now 42, was diagnosed at 30 and is open about her challenges. Her mom, Kris Jenner, 67, had her first outbreak in her late 20s and said it was “life-changing.” Other celebrities with psoriasis include musician Art Garfunkel, 81, actor Jon Lovitz, 65, and Jerry Mathers, 74, known as “The Beaver.”
Little Girl from Across the Street Waved at Me Every Day and Night — What I Saw When I Went to Inspect Her House Left Me Breathless
For weeks, a little girl from across the street waved at me day and night. I couldn’t shake the haunting look in her eyes. When I finally went to see who she was, nothing could’ve prepared me for the heartbreaking truth waiting behind that door.
Every evening, I would watch this little girl from my window. She was always there, a small, petite figure no older than five standing by the window, her tiny hand waving at me. Her eyes, fixed on mine, held an intensity that sent shivers down my spine. Who was she? What did she want from me?
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I turned to my wife, Sandy, who was curled up on the couch with a book. “Babe, she’s there again. The girl I told you about.”
Sandy looked up, her brow furrowed. “The one who’s always waving at you?”
I nodded, feeling a pang of sorrow. “Yeah. There’s something… I don’t know. Something in her eyes. It’s like she’s trying to tell me something.”
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Sandy set her book aside and joined me at the window. “Oh, Arnie,” she said softly, placing a hand on my shoulder. “Maybe she’s just a lonely kid. Have you tried waving back?”
I shook my head, my eyes still fixed on the little figure across the street. “No, I can’t explain it, Sandy. It feels like more than that. Like she’s calling out to me.”
Sandy’s grip on my shoulder tightened. “Honey, you’re scaring me a little. It’s just a kid waving. Don’t read too much into it, okay?”
I tore my gaze away from the window and forced a smile. “You’re right. I’m probably just overthinking things.”
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As I pulled the curtains shut, I couldn’t shake the feeling that I was turning my back on something important.
That night, sleep eluded me, my dreams haunted by the image of the little girl crying out for help.
“Don’t leave me,” she sobbed in my dreams. “Please, don’t go.”
I woke up in a cold sweat, Sandy’s concerned face hovering over me.
“Arnie? Are you okay? You were talking in your sleep.”
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I sat up, my heart racing. “I… I don’t know. That girl. She was in my dreams. She was crying.”
Sandy’s eyes widened with worry. “Maybe we should talk to someone about this. A therapist, maybe?”
I shook my head. “No, I think I need to do something. I can’t keep ignoring this.”
At the break of dawn, I woke up exhausted. My head was pounding from last night’s nightmares. The aroma of freshly made pancakes wafted up from the kitchen, but even the promise of my favorite breakfast did little to lift my spirits.
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I trudged downstairs, where Sandy greeted me with a steaming cup of tea and a plate of golden pancakes.
“Rough night?”
I nodded, taking a sip of the hot tea. “Yeah, couldn’t shake off those dreams.”
As I finished my breakfast, I was drawn to the window again. My heart skipped a beat when I saw the little girl standing there. She waved at me the moment our eyes met.
Her tiny outstretched hand seemed to pull me towards her like a moth drawn to a flame.
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I set down my cup with a clatter. “That’s it. I’m going to talk to her parents. I can’t take this anymore.”
Sandy’s eyes widened. “Arnie, are you sure about this?”
I nodded, my eyes fixed on the building across the street. “I have to know, Sandy. I can’t explain it, but… I feel like she needs me. She’s getting creepy. She waved at me the same way last night. What does she want? I don’t get it.”
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Sandy came up behind me, wrapping her arms around my waist. “Just be careful, okay? And call me if anything feels off.”
I turned and kissed her forehead. “I will. I promise.”
The walk across the street felt like the longest journey of my life. My heart pounded in my chest as I approached the building, my palms sweaty as I pressed the buzzer for the apartment I’d seen the girl in so many times.
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There was a long pause, and then a woman’s voice crackled through the intercom. “Yes? Who is it?”
“Hi, I’m Arnold from across the street. I wanted to talk to you about your daughter.”
Another pause, longer this time. Then, the door buzzed open.
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A woman stood in the doorway. My heart stopped the moment I saw her.
“JULIETTE?” I whispered, hardly believing my eyes.
She nodded, her eyes glistening with tears. “Hello, Arnie. It’s been a long time.”
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Before I could respond, a small figure appeared behind Juliette. The little girl. She looked up at me, her eyes wide and hopeful.
“DADDY?!” she chirped.
I felt like I was on a boat in a storm. I gripped the doorframe to steady myself.
“What did she say?”
Juliette stepped aside, ushering me in. “Come inside, Arnie. We have a lot to talk about.”
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I sank onto the worn couch, my head spinning. Juliette sat across from me, her eyes brimming with tears.
“Arnie, do you remember that weekend at the lake house? Six years ago?”
I nodded, memories flooding back. “Our last weekend together before—”
“Before we broke up,” she finished. “What I didn’t know then was… I was already pregnant.”
My head snapped up. “What? But how? Why didn’t you tell me?”
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Juliette’s tears spilled over. “I tried, Arnie. God, I tried. But you’d moved out of town and changed your number. It was like you’d vanished.”
“I had a right to know,” I choked out, my eyes stinging.
“I know. I was young and scared. By the time I worked up the courage to really look for you, years had passed. I thought it was too late.”
The little girl, whom Juliette called Heidi, sat silently in a corner, her eyes never leaving my face.
My daughter. The word echoed in my mind, foreign, terrifying, and wonderful all at once.
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“When did you move here?” I turned to Juliette.
“A few months ago. I got a job transfer. When I saw you through the window that first day…” she trailed off, her eyes distant. “I told Heidi you were her father. I thought maybe it was fate giving us another chance. But then, I saw you with someone—”
“She’s my wife, Sandy.”
A long silence. Then I stood up abruptly, my mind reeling. “I need to go. I need to think.”
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Heidi’s face crumpled. “Daddy? Are you leaving?”
The word struck me like a dagger to my heart. I knelt down in front of her, my heart breaking at the fear in her eyes.
“I’ll be back, sweetheart. I promise. I just need some time, okay?”
She nodded solemnly, and I felt a surge of love so strong it nearly knocked me off my feet.
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As I left the apartment, Juliette called after me. “Arnie? I’m sorry. For everything.”
I couldn’t bring myself to respond.
The walk home was a blur. I found Sandy waiting anxiously by the door.
“Arnie? What happened? You look like you’ve seen a ghost.”
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I collapsed into her arms, the tears finally breaking free. Between sobs, I told her everything. About Juliette, about Heidi, and about the daughter I never knew I had.
Sandy listened in stunned silence, her arms tight around me. When I finished, she pulled back, her eyes searching mine.
“What are you going to do?” she asked softly.
I shook my head, lost. “I don’t know. I have a daughter, Sandy. A little girl who’s been waving at me and trying to reach me. How do I just walk away from that?”
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“I’m just as shocked as you are, Arnie. But we need to be careful. You can’t just take everything Juliette says at face value.”
“What do you mean?”
“We should get a DNA test first. Just to be sure,” Sandy said, squeezing my shoulders.
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The next day, I stood at Juliette’s door again. When she opened it, I blurted out, “Juliette, I think we need a DNA test.”
Her face instantly hardened. “What? You think I’m lying? You just found out you have a child, and you’re already doubting me? You’re unbelievable, Arnie.”
“I just want to be certain before I commit to anything,” I tried to explain, but she slammed the door in my face.
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Dejected, I returned home and shared what happened with my mother. She listened quietly, then asked for Juliette’s address.
I wasn’t sure what my mom said to her, but the next day, Juliette called.
“Hey, Juliette here. I got your number from your mother. I’ve thought about it and understand. We can do the DNA test.”
I sighed with relief. “Thank you, Juliette. I appreciate it.”
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When I told Sandy, she wasn’t thrilled. “I love you, Arnie. God help me, I do. And I’ll stand by you through this. But I’m scared. I just hope this doesn’t change anything between us,” she sobbed as I pulled her closer, my eyes brimming with tears.
The next few weeks were an emotional rollercoaster, each day bringing a new wave of anxiety, hope, and fear.
When the DNA test results finally arrived, my hands trembled as I opened the envelope. The words blurred before my eyes, but one phrase stood out in stark clarity: “99.99% probability of paternity.”
My heart raced. Heidi was my daughter.
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But a small part of me, the part still reeling from this life-altering revelation, whispered doubts.
What if there was a mistake?
I couldn’t bear the thought of embracing this new reality only to have it ripped away.
So I took another test and endured another agonizing wait. The second results came back, also positive. Tears streamed down my face as I called out to Sandy.
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“It’s true,” I sobbed on her shoulders. “She’s really mine. My daughter.”
Dead silence, then, “Oh, Arnie, I’m here for you. For both of you.”
Sandy and I visited Juliette’s apartment, where Heidi greeted me with a cry of “Daddy!” and threw herself into my arms.
As I held her, I looked at Sandy, afraid of what I might see in her eyes. But she was smiling through her tears, her hand reaching out to smooth Heidi’s hair.
“She’s beautiful,” Sandy whispered.
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Juliette watched us, joy and sadness brimming in her eyes. “I never meant to complicate your lives,” she said. “I just wanted Heidi to know her father.”
I nodded, understanding flooding through me. “I’m glad you did. I’m glad I know her now.”
As we left that day, Heidi clung to my leg. “You’ll come back, right Daddy?”
I knelt down, looking into those eyes that were so like mine. “Of course, I will, sweetheart. I’m not going anywhere. I promise.”
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On the walk home, Sandy laced her fingers through mine. “So, we’re parents now, huh?”
I squeezed her hand. “Looks like it. Are you okay with this?”
She was quiet for a moment, then nodded. “We’ve been trying to have kids for two years now, but it hasn’t happened. It’s not how I imagined it happening. But yes, I think I am okay.”
As we reached our front door, I pulled Sandy into a hug. “I love you. Thank you for being so amazing through all of this.”
“I love you too. And Arnie? I think you’re going to be a wonderful father.”
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That night, as I stood by our window, I saw Heidi waving from across the street. But this time, instead of fear or confusion, I felt only love. I waved back, my heart full to bursting.
Maybe this wasn’t how I’d planned to become a father. Maybe it wasn’t the path I would have chosen. But as I stood there, waving at my daughter, I knew with absolute certainty that it was the path I was meant to be on all along.
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