In August 2017, Tony Alarcon’s phone rang unexpectedly.
Like many parents, he thought it might be a telemarketer. But this time, he answered the call.
Hearing from the school can be nerve-wracking for any parent. Tony immediately started worrying—was his daughter, Demetra, okay? Had something happened?
What he found out left him surprised.
It was a hot summer day in Northern California, with temperatures reaching 90 degrees. Tony had dropped off his 13-year-old daughter, Demetra, at school that morning. She wore a blue romper to stay cool in the heat, and neither of them thought the outfit would cause any issues.
Demetra, a student at Raymond J. Fisher Middle School in Los Gatos, California, had simply dressed for the weather.
Not everyone agreed with Demetra’s outfit. A teacher at her school said her romper was “too distracting” for the boys.
When the teacher told Demetra that her outfit was too short, her dad, Tony, rushed back to the school with a change of clothes—jean shorts and a tank top. But the school said those clothes were also inappropriate.
Tony was shocked. He asked Demetra to bend over and touch her toes in front of the school administrator. “Nothing is hanging out. There’s nothing inappropriate. I don’t understand this dress code rule,” he told TODAY.
Still, the school said her clothes were “distracting.” Since it was 90 degrees outside, Tony had no choice but to go to his car and grab a pair of leggings for Demetra to wear.
Demetra felt embarrassed.
Tony expressed his frustration, saying, “She’s just a kid. She’s only 13. She’s not trying to be a sex symbol. She just wants to be comfortable and attend class, but we’re not giving her that chance.”
This wasn’t the first time Demetra had been in trouble for her clothes. Just a week before, she was called out for a visible bra strap. “When I got dress coded last week, they said my bra strap was showing,” Demetra told the *San Jose Mercury News*. “Like, I’m wearing a bra—what’s the big deal?”
Tony, a successful investment advisor and father of two, didn’t let it go. Angry at what he saw as an unfair rule that mostly targeted girls, he took his complaint to social media. Parents from all over the country showed their support, agreeing that the school’s dress code was outdated and unfair to girls.
“Demetra’s not the only one. If you sit in the school parking lot, you’ll see that,” Tony said. “Lots of girls just want to be comfortable, but they feel forced to wear leggings even when it’s 100 degrees outside.”
Tony believed that parents, not schools, should decide if their children’s clothes are appropriate. He was also worried about how being told their clothing is a “distraction” to boys could affect young girls emotionally in the long run.
The story quickly got attention from the media, with major news outlets reporting on Tony’s efforts to change the dress code. While the school didn’t speak on camera, they did release a statement:
“The Los Gatos Union School District believes that appropriate dress and grooming contribute to a productive learning environment,” the district said. “Students are expected to wear clothes that reflect the core values of our learning community.”
Tony’s efforts made an impact. His push for change led the Los Gatos Union School District to reevaluate its dress code to make it fairer and less strict for all students.
Lisa Fraser, the school’s principal, explained that the dress code rules, called “Fashion Faux Pas,” apply to both girls and boys. Some of the rules include no hats or hoods indoors, no visible underwear, no inappropriate logos or words, and shorts must have at least 4-inch inseams.
“There has always been a dress code,” Fraser told a newspaper. “These are basic rules for appropriate behavior. I can set guidelines for the school, but I want them to reflect the community’s values.”
In the end, Tony Alarcon’s persistence started an important discussion about how school dress codes affect young girls — showing that one parent’s voice can truly make a difference.
What do you think about the school’s dress code? Have you or your children faced a similar situation? Share your thoughts and experiences in the comments!
My Husband Didn’t Meet Me at the Hospital Discharge with Our Newborn – When I Found Out His Reason, I Went Pale
When Sarah welcomed a bouncing baby boy, she thought it would be the happiest day of her life. But an unexpected betrayal shattered her world, leaving her devastated and alone. She packed her bags and left with their newborn, forcing her husband to confront his priorities.
A few weeks ago, I gave birth to our beautiful baby boy, Luc. It was a tough pregnancy, filled with sleepless nights and constant worry, but it was all worth it the moment I held Luc in my arms.
The plan was simple: my husband, Tom, would pick us up from the hospital and we’d start our new life as a family. I imagined him cradling Luc, his eyes lighting up with joy. That image kept me going through the hardest days.
The day of our discharge arrived, and I was buzzing with anticipation. I had Luc wrapped in a cozy blanket, and every tiny sound he made filled my heart with warmth.
I kept glancing at the clock, each minute dragging longer than the last. Tom was supposed to be here by now. I checked my phone: no missed calls, no messages. My excitement began to twist into anxiety.
The nurse placed a comforting hand on my shoulder. “If you need anything, don’t hesitate to call the hospital,” she said softly.
“Thank you,” I whispered, my voice barely audible as I stepped inside, feeling more alone than ever.
I needed Tom to understand the gravity of what he had done. My heart pounded as I methodically packed a bag for me and Luc. Each item I placed in the suitcase felt like a nail in the coffin of my trust.
Tom truly was a changed man. He stepped up and became the supportive partner and loving father I knew he could be. He never missed an important moment again, whether it was a midnight feeding or a precious first smile. His priorities were in order, and he made sure we knew we were his world.
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