Loved ones are completely shattered by the “heartbreaking” death of Kara Welsh, a 21-year-old star gymnast, who was shot to death by a man identified by college friends as her boyfriend.
The national champion was found dead in her off-campus apartment on August 30, and a friend of the couple says he “beats” himself up for not sharing “just one more” moment that maybe “could change” what happened.
Keep reading to learn about Welsh’s tragic death.
On Saturday August 31, Sierra Brooks learned Kara Welsh, her best friend and former teammate, was shot to death the night before.
“I can’t even wrap my head around how someone could do this, let alone to such a beautiful person,” she writes in a tribute to the 21-year-old Welsh, a University of Wisconsin-Whitewater (UWW) student who was majoring in business and economics.
Welsh, a gymnast, also won an individual title on the vault in 2023.
According to a statement, the student, from Plainfield, Illinois, was found dead in an off-campus apartment about 11:54 p.m. on August 30.
She was shot multiple times.
When police arrived, a 23-year-old male who was known to Welsh was also in the home and “it was determined that leading up to the shooting, an altercation had occurred between the two.”
‘Heartbreaking’
“Absolutely heartbreaking to receive a phone call like this one. Kara, you deserved the world and more,” shares Brooks, who in her earlier years trained with Welsh at the Aspire Gymnastics Academy. “Wish I could just see you one more time. Wish I could laugh with you just one more time. Wish I could hug you one more time.”
Aspire also shared several photos of the star gymnast along with a touching tribute for the young woman on their Facebook site.
“As Kara grew, so did Aspire. She was a constant in a sport that is filled with ups and downs. She was full of life and full of personality,” the training center writes. “Kara had a way of communicating through facial expressions that was second to none. Aspire lost a piece of its heart today. Kara, we love you.”
Corey King, chancellor at UWW, released a statement on August 31 and calling Welsh “a standout member of the Warhawk gymnastics team,” he shares that “news of Kara’s death is heartbreaking for our close-knit university community.”
“I hate that evil touched this sweet girl’s life,” writes a friend on Facebook, who shares the tribute posted by Aspire. Referring to Welsh’s sister Kaeli, the netizen continues, “The Welsh girls showed us how to be gym sisters but so much more. Kara was all heart. The loss is unfathomable.”
‘I beat myself up’
Police have not yet released the name of the suspect as he has not yet been officially charged.
But friends reveal the pair were dating, and the man, identified as Chad Richards, was helping Welsh move into her apartment.
“Sometimes I beat myself up, if I was able to see them that day maybe…just one more joke one more memory we could make…could change…” says Brayten Wilkerson, a friend of both Welsh and the suspect, who was a member of UWW wrestling team. Speaking with ABC affiliate WISN, Wilkerson continues, “Kara was a sweetheart. She was one of the best people you could meet. Her family did a great job raising her – a wonderful woman.”
For those who don’t understand this
At the beginning of a relationship, everything feels like a fairytale. Butterflies, compliments, sweet words, and affectionate gestures define the early stages of romance. It’s as if your partner can do no wrong, and every conversation is filled with warmth and tenderness.
But fast forward a few years, and things change. The sweet sugar of new love turns into something a little more… let’s say, citrusy. Those once-soft words might now include playful sarcasm, teasing, and brutally honest remarks. Does this mean love has faded? Absolutely not!
For those who don’t understand, this shift is actually a sign of real love—a transition from the excitement of something new to the comfort of something strong. Let’s break it down.
New Love: When Everything is Sugar and Spice
When love is new, girls (and guys too) tend to speak in the sweetest way possible.
✔ They compliment everything from your smile to the way you tie your shoes.
✔ They say good morning texts like they’re writing poetry.
✔ They laugh at all your jokes, even the bad ones.
✔ They use soft, gentle tones, always trying to be the best version of themselves.
This stage is exciting, passionate, and full of sweetness, just like sugar. It’s a time when both partners put in extra effort to impress each other and avoid conflicts at all costs.
But here’s the reality: this phase doesn’t last forever—and that’s not a bad thing.
Long Love: When Things Get More… ‘Lime-Flavored’
As the relationship matures, the sugar-coating starts to wear off. This doesn’t mean the love is gone—it just means both partners are now comfortable enough to be their real selves.
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✔ Less sugar, more spice: Instead of constant compliments, you now get teasing, playful sarcasm, and inside jokes.
✔ Honest communication: She won’t pretend to love your bad haircut—she’ll straight-up tell you to fix it.
✔ More “tough love”: If you’re slacking on something, she won’t hesitate to call you out on it—but always with love.
✔ Teasing replaces flattery: Instead of saying, “You’re so handsome,” she might say, “You really think that outfit matches? Cute.”
At first, it may seem like she’s become “mean”, but the truth is, she’s just comfortable enough to be 100% real with you.
Why This Change is a Good Thing
Many people panic when they notice their partner doesn’t act the same as they did in the early days. But this change isn’t bad—it’s actually proof that the relationship has entered a deeper stage of love.
Here’s why:
✔ Comfort = Authenticity – She’s not trying to impress you anymore; she’s just being herself. That means the love is real, not a performance.
✔ Teasing = Affection – Playful sarcasm is often a sign of deep emotional connection. The fact that she feels safe enough to joke around with you means she trusts you.
✔ Honesty = Growth – She’s no longer telling you what you want to hear; she’s telling you what you need to hear, helping you become the best version of yourself.
Think of it like this: sugar tastes great, but too much of it is unhealthy. A little lime, though? It keeps things fresh and exciting!
Signs That Your Relationship Has Transitioned from Sugar to Citrus (And That’s Okay!)
1. The compliments slow down, but the actions speak louder
She may not say “you’re so amazing” as often, but she’ll show love in other ways—by supporting your goals, remembering the little things you like, and sticking with you through tough times.
2. There’s more teasing, but it’s all love
Instead of praising every single thing you do, she now teases you—but in a way that brings you closer.
3. She tells you the truth, even when it’s not what you want to hear
If she cares about you, she won’t let you walk around with bad fashion choices or a dumb idea. She’ll call you out, but only because she wants the best for you.
4. “Good morning” texts turn into “Don’t forget to pay that bill”
It may seem less romantic, but it’s a sign that she’s thinking about your life together, not just the honeymoon phase.
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What to Do When the Sweetness Fades
Instead of worrying, embrace it! This phase of love is where real connection and long-term happiness are built. Here’s how to keep things fun and balanced:
✔ Appreciate her honesty – It’s a sign she sees you as a life partner, not just a crush.
✔ Keep the romance alive – Just because the sugar phase fades doesn’t mean you should stop making her feel special. Small gestures still matter!
✔ Laugh together – Don’t take the teasing too seriously. If she roasts you, roast her back (lovingly, of course!).
Final Thoughts: Love Evolves, and That’s Beautiful
At the end of the day, sugar is sweet, but citrus is refreshing. A long-term relationship isn’t about staying in the honeymoon phase forever—it’s about growing together, becoming each other’s best friend, and loving in a deeper, more authentic way.
So, the next time you notice your partner switching from sugar to lime, don’t worry—it just means the love is getting real. And that’s something to celebrate!
What do you think? Have you experienced this shift in love? Drop a comment and let’s talk!
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